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Struggling to accept.

Witsend01

hi I have a 13 year old girl who recently has been diagnosed on the ASD. I'm really exhausted. She is refusing to accept help and understanding the diagnosis which is making my family life very difficult. She has no care for anyone and everything she does she blames yes blames the autism. She will have no communication with me or anyone and has a lot of frustration. I have tried explaining to her that I would like to help her understand but she just puts the barriers up. We have had a lot of arguments and fights and I feel that my child needs some intense therapy into trying to understand how her problems affect her daily life and be shown ways to cope. i have cried screamed and shouted at children services as they think we need just family therapy but the family is so broken I know it won't help. My child walks all over me now as I am too scared  tell her off as she can get violent. this is not how I want to live life. I don't know what to do anymore and how to deal with it. My daughter has been in trouble with the police for aggressive behaviour and still people can't help me. She has even said I have attacked her to the police and taken to the police station where they have cleared me. Any one have any advice on what I can do.x

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  • Thank you for your wonderful reply. I do sit in silence and I do cry sometimes so much. Yes she is confused and upset I believe but she just will not confide in anyone. She has spiralled out of control  and I know she is doing things she shouldn't be doing. I can't punish her as she will get violent. She knows this for sure and that's why she has the upper hand. The thing is I have even tried medication for hormones which she refuses to take. She is also a self harmer and I just cannot argue with her as I don't know what the consequences will be. My family have tried helping and they have now given up as they feel that they thought they was helping her and then they feel like she has thrown it back In there face. So at the moment I am alone. I have been judged but child services have recommended classes of parents with Children with autism but I do know that the group usually has young children and not so much teens. I will research more into parents that have had recent diagnosis with teens as this I feel will help more.x

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  • Thank you for your wonderful reply. I do sit in silence and I do cry sometimes so much. Yes she is confused and upset I believe but she just will not confide in anyone. She has spiralled out of control  and I know she is doing things she shouldn't be doing. I can't punish her as she will get violent. She knows this for sure and that's why she has the upper hand. The thing is I have even tried medication for hormones which she refuses to take. She is also a self harmer and I just cannot argue with her as I don't know what the consequences will be. My family have tried helping and they have now given up as they feel that they thought they was helping her and then they feel like she has thrown it back In there face. So at the moment I am alone. I have been judged but child services have recommended classes of parents with Children with autism but I do know that the group usually has young children and not so much teens. I will research more into parents that have had recent diagnosis with teens as this I feel will help more.x

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