The Autism Deception.

Longman's ghost to Recombinantsocks.  It is a bit unfair picking
fault with one paragraph of a ghost posting, given most people cannot see the
rest of what I wrote (unless on an email notification), but it is a risk I
have to take.  For those who don't know it I was gagged over a year ago
for standing up to the Mods over the way many adults on the forum were being
treated, so I now cannot post anything political, or indeed anything at all.
The comment you quote refers to a number of posters of late.

I also
ghosted a comparison with going to the gym. People at the gym are there for a
number of reasons - sports injury, post-op, running, rowing and other
athletics work-outs, body building etc. I wouldn't dare criticise anyone's
exercise practises beause I really don't know their backgrounds.  I see
this forum as being the same. It is inappropriate to pick apart people's
posts out of disaagreement with their profile name, their subject matter,
their attitude to their disability, their parents' defects etc.  Also
I'd be wary as an old timer being overly critical of the postings of people
in their teens and twenties.

What it does is it scares people from
coming back on. It is intimidating. They are trying to explain,
sometimes with hardship, their particular difficulties, seeking others with
similar experiences for support, but someone without that sought after
background keeps tearing their postings apart for reasons that have nothing
to do with their main concerns.

It is very difficult for me, being
gagged in this way, to try to alleviate the situation. I have been trying to
get the Mods to deal with it, but getting nowhere. I am very concerned that
the forum is staying in the doldrums because these have become 'shark
infested waters' very toxic for people trying to post,. Despite being badly
treated by NAS my main concern has always been to help others. I am therefore
asking that people might refrain from inapproporiately critcising other
people's posts (even though you see this as me inappropriately criticising
your posts). Longman, though a gag.

Longman,

I'm afraid that I am still not clear. Do you include me in that "number of posters"?

Your comparison with a gym is, I think, perhaps not the best analogy. People come to any forum looking for advice and discussion about the issues that they are facing. People do not go to the gym for that purpose. Offering advice, critiquing other advice, speculation, about wider issues that a poster may not have considered, are all fair game in a discussion forum in my opinion.

You appear to avoid opinions, perhaps for fear of arguments, but you do not avoid criticism of the various bodies such as NAS, government provision for people with autism etc etc. Your posts are therefore, it seems to me, characterised by negativity and impending doom. You have valuable experience and thoughts about our condition that could help others but you seldom seem to profer these.

Sometimes discussions go awry and apologies are appropriate and clarifications are needed but I try to be constructive and sometimes challenging because people sometimes benefit from being challenged (this is one of the core ideas behind CBT).

Turning to a couple of your points:

I picked up on the posters use (or not) of pseudonyms because I was concerned that real names were being used for delicate subjects that were best kep anonymous. This was convern for SH particularly (both the forum member and also for anyone that might be known by that name) Other posters were unaware of the advice to use pseudonyms and I hope that SH didn't take my posts as a criticism.

My posts that introduce the subject of inheritance are not aimed at "parents defects" as you put it. If we are to come to terms with our circumstances then I think it is useful to consider how those circumstances come to pass. I actually think that an understanding of the way that autism is passed on through the genes can actually dispel the blame or guilt that people generally attribute to their parents.

Longman's ghost to Recombinantsocks.  It is a bit unfair picking
fault with one paragraph of a ghost posting, given most people cannot see the
rest of what I wrote (unless on an email notification), but it is a risk I
have to take.  For those who don't know it I was gagged over a year ago
for standing up to the Mods over the way many adults on the forum were being
treated, so I now cannot post anything political, or indeed anything at all.
The comment you quote refers to a number of posters of late.

I also
ghosted a comparison with going to the gym. People at the gym are there for a
number of reasons - sports injury, post-op, running, rowing and other
athletics work-outs, body building etc. I wouldn't dare criticise anyone's
exercise practises beause I really don't know their backgrounds.  I see
this forum as being the same. It is inappropriate to pick apart people's
posts out of disaagreement with their profile name, their subject matter,
their attitude to their disability, their parents' defects etc.  Also
I'd be wary as an old timer being overly critical of the postings of people
in their teens and twenties.

What it does is it scares people from
coming back on. It is intimidating. They are trying to explain,
sometimes with hardship, their particular difficulties, seeking others with
similar experiences for support, but someone without that sought after
background keeps tearing their postings apart for reasons that have nothing
to do with their main concerns.

It is very difficult for me, being
gagged in this way, to try to alleviate the situation. I have been trying to
get the Mods to deal with it, but getting nowhere. I am very concerned that
the forum is staying in the doldrums because these have become 'shark
infested waters' very toxic for people trying to post,. Despite being badly
treated by NAS my main concern has always been to help others. I am therefore
asking that people might refrain from inapproporiately critcising other
people's posts (even though you see this as me inappropriately criticising
your posts). Longman, though a gag.

Longman,

I'm afraid that I am still not clear. Do you include me in that "number of posters"?

Your comparison with a gym is, I think, perhaps not the best analogy. People come to any forum looking for advice and discussion about the issues that they are facing. People do not go to the gym for that purpose. Offering advice, critiquing other advice, speculation, about wider issues that a poster may not have considered, are all fair game in a discussion forum in my opinion.

You appear to avoid opinions, perhaps for fear of arguments, but you do not avoid criticism of the various bodies such as NAS, government provision for people with autism etc etc. Your posts are therefore, it seems to me, characterised by negativity and impending doom. You have valuable experience and thoughts about our condition that could help others but you seldom seem to profer these.

Sometimes discussions go awry and apologies are appropriate and clarifications are needed but I try to be constructive and sometimes challenging because people sometimes benefit from being challenged (this is one of the core ideas behind CBT).

Turning to a couple of your points:

I picked up on the posters use (or not) of pseudonyms because I was concerned that real names were being used for delicate subjects that were best kep anonymous. This was convern for SH particularly (both the forum member and also for anyone that might be known by that name) Other posters were unaware of the advice to use pseudonyms and I hope that SH didn't take my posts as a criticism.

My posts that introduce the subject of inheritance are not aimed at "parents defects" as you put it. If we are to come to terms with our circumstances then I think it is useful to consider how those circumstances come to pass. I actually think that an understanding of the way that autism is passed on through the genes can actually dispel the blame or guilt that people generally attribute to their parents.