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Mixing my daughter with my friends kids?

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My 4.5 yr daughter has epilepsy and ASD (actual/detailed diagnosis in couple of weeks) and is roughly two years behind her peers. She doesn't have friends at school because she is still at the stage where she plays alongside rather than with the other kids.

My local mummy friends are always getting together with thier kids etc and since her epilepsy diagnosis I have been left out of invites, either to stuff with or without the kids. Add to it the ASD symptoms and she is obviously hard work to mix with other kids.

I am really down about it all at the moment and have got to the stage where I just can't listen or see my other mummy friends I made when H was born because all their kids are doing 'so great' at school and they keep on about it either to my face or on say facebook. Does my head in and I am now feel I don't actually want to mix H with them anymore cos the kids are just horrible to her, and it breaks my heart to watch, plus I just have nothing in common with the parents anymore.

Am I doing her an injustice by keeping her away from them or should I be thicker skinned and put her into these normal situations?

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  • My son will be five this year and started infants last September. All the mums are sympathetic to his autism but I/he doesn't get invites to parties and such. Personally I'm not too bothered as it saves me making excuses as to why we can't go as I know he'd have difficulty with all the noise and crowded atmosphere and he wouldn't enjoy himself.

    Don't see it as being cut off from others but more embracing the person he is and enjoying how he likes to be. My son loves anything to do with water, ranging from dancing around in the garden trying to catch the rain in his mouth, swimming at the local pool, going to the local sea life centre or spending the whole day at the theme park only going on the ONE ride the WHOLE day long (the Log Flume) then that's what we do during the holidays and weekends. He might not be playing football out on the back fields with the other kids on the street or be playing computer games with my friends children but he's not interested in those things and as long as he's happy, I'm happy.

    I understand you're probably feeling left out and lonely but as long as your child is happy and not themselves feeling left out and lonely, then don't let it get you too down.

    I know how you feel about the facebook statuses but there's nothing you can do about it and just remind yourself that they're not doing it to personally get to you.

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  • My son will be five this year and started infants last September. All the mums are sympathetic to his autism but I/he doesn't get invites to parties and such. Personally I'm not too bothered as it saves me making excuses as to why we can't go as I know he'd have difficulty with all the noise and crowded atmosphere and he wouldn't enjoy himself.

    Don't see it as being cut off from others but more embracing the person he is and enjoying how he likes to be. My son loves anything to do with water, ranging from dancing around in the garden trying to catch the rain in his mouth, swimming at the local pool, going to the local sea life centre or spending the whole day at the theme park only going on the ONE ride the WHOLE day long (the Log Flume) then that's what we do during the holidays and weekends. He might not be playing football out on the back fields with the other kids on the street or be playing computer games with my friends children but he's not interested in those things and as long as he's happy, I'm happy.

    I understand you're probably feeling left out and lonely but as long as your child is happy and not themselves feeling left out and lonely, then don't let it get you too down.

    I know how you feel about the facebook statuses but there's nothing you can do about it and just remind yourself that they're not doing it to personally get to you.

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