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Mixing my daughter with my friends kids?

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My 4.5 yr daughter has epilepsy and ASD (actual/detailed diagnosis in couple of weeks) and is roughly two years behind her peers. She doesn't have friends at school because she is still at the stage where she plays alongside rather than with the other kids.

My local mummy friends are always getting together with thier kids etc and since her epilepsy diagnosis I have been left out of invites, either to stuff with or without the kids. Add to it the ASD symptoms and she is obviously hard work to mix with other kids.

I am really down about it all at the moment and have got to the stage where I just can't listen or see my other mummy friends I made when H was born because all their kids are doing 'so great' at school and they keep on about it either to my face or on say facebook. Does my head in and I am now feel I don't actually want to mix H with them anymore cos the kids are just horrible to her, and it breaks my heart to watch, plus I just have nothing in common with the parents anymore.

Am I doing her an injustice by keeping her away from them or should I be thicker skinned and put her into these normal situations?

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  • This is the type of thing where one door closes another one opens. I have found more better friends through G's Autism it just takes time and effort and greater distances. 

    It is heart breaking in so many ways but everyone has their own cross to bear.

    I don't put my son in nasty situations but if it does happen will help him try to adapt. It's this adaptation that will help him cope in the future especially when I am not there.

    Don't want to be the bearer of bad news but developmentally bullying I think starts in Y3 so you have worse to come and she will have to cope some how.

    I have come to expect not to be invited to birthday parties and shunned in the playground but I know the friends I do have are good ones.

    There will be lots of opportunities for 'normal' situations you don't have to do all of them.

    I feel for you at the moment but once you have come out the otherside you will be stronger.

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  • This is the type of thing where one door closes another one opens. I have found more better friends through G's Autism it just takes time and effort and greater distances. 

    It is heart breaking in so many ways but everyone has their own cross to bear.

    I don't put my son in nasty situations but if it does happen will help him try to adapt. It's this adaptation that will help him cope in the future especially when I am not there.

    Don't want to be the bearer of bad news but developmentally bullying I think starts in Y3 so you have worse to come and she will have to cope some how.

    I have come to expect not to be invited to birthday parties and shunned in the playground but I know the friends I do have are good ones.

    There will be lots of opportunities for 'normal' situations you don't have to do all of them.

    I feel for you at the moment but once you have come out the otherside you will be stronger.

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