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Overeacting parent, or bad pupil management?

Nickyboynoo

Hi everyone,

I need a bit of advise.

   My autistic son is 7 years old and currently in year 3 and on a day to day basis he seems to be coping well to school life, as well as we can expect anyway.

He goes into another class in the afternoons for apparent nuture group experience. ( thats a whole other issue).

Anyhow, over the last few weeks we have come to find out my son has not been sent home with some very important year 3 class letters. Namely a parent workshop, that i missed, a parent evening reply letter which again i now have missed and as of this week a school trip that is happening is happening early next week, only finding out because of a newsletter we received!

This bothers me, i have had gut feelings for a while that things were becoming lax regarding a few issues with him at school. Him being allowed to get out of school alone, someone not being there to meet him in morning. Also no reading record checked or homework given for at least 6 weeks. So this just added to my concerns.

To me it feels like he is being managed less efficiently as before, the letter thing in my head almost confirms things.

I rang the office and explained the issues with the letters . I was told it was probably because he isnt in his class in afternoons or because he was ill. It made me feel like a overeacting parent.

Am I?

yes these are just letters but it feels like a symtpom of a bigger issue.

Your thoughts and advise would be very welcome before I speak to the senco monday morning.

Thank you for reading, and hope you have a great day.

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  • Sounds like a poor excuse from the school secretary office. They could be genuinely made on behalf of the person who said them but very poor. If the child is out of classroom at the time the letters are being handed out then a good teacher would keep that letter for when the child returns to the classroom. Especiaily when the child is known to be out of the classroom at those times.

    I don't think you are an over reacting parent. I think you genuinely want to find out what is really happening here.  Whether it genuinely poor practice on the part of his teachers or is there something else happening? Are you brave enough to face the question head on. Speak the fear you have what may be happening.

    It very easy to monitor whether the situation is improving becasue the be various letters (communication) at this time of term.  But I think you should seek an honest response from SENCO because you can then work with honesty.  If school is deliberly avoiding having him in their care on trips then they need to be clear rather than avoiding the issue. 

    It could be he does get the letters and he himself throws them away or doesn't put them in his bag so you never get them? Which case another system is required to help include him into activies.

    I really hope you get some answers of SENCO in the morning X

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  • Sounds like a poor excuse from the school secretary office. They could be genuinely made on behalf of the person who said them but very poor. If the child is out of classroom at the time the letters are being handed out then a good teacher would keep that letter for when the child returns to the classroom. Especiaily when the child is known to be out of the classroom at those times.

    I don't think you are an over reacting parent. I think you genuinely want to find out what is really happening here.  Whether it genuinely poor practice on the part of his teachers or is there something else happening? Are you brave enough to face the question head on. Speak the fear you have what may be happening.

    It very easy to monitor whether the situation is improving becasue the be various letters (communication) at this time of term.  But I think you should seek an honest response from SENCO because you can then work with honesty.  If school is deliberly avoiding having him in their care on trips then they need to be clear rather than avoiding the issue. 

    It could be he does get the letters and he himself throws them away or doesn't put them in his bag so you never get them? Which case another system is required to help include him into activies.

    I really hope you get some answers of SENCO in the morning X

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