Desperate mum

Im a single mum to a 13 year old boy with ASD. He is everything to me and I fought many battles to get him diagnosed, to learn about the condition, the support at school and to have the independence he strives for. Sadly now I am failing to cope. Most recently, he got very angry about me mentioning to my step father how the dog had slipped his collar on a walk but i caught him and is OK. He screamed that I was telling everyone (I hadn't). I said if he told me something upset him I wouldn't say about it. I go to another room to see my mum creating a bit of space and he follows screaming I was talking about it again. Both me and my mum explained I wasn't to which he screams I'm a whore and he hopes I die of cancer, which my aunt has, just a couple of days ago. My mum spent a long time trying to talk to my son, explaining I had no idea and that I'm sorry it upset him so much but his having none of it and completely ignoring me. I'm seriously struggling. I feel I'm a verbal punchbag. He says things to embarrass me like telling my dad I said my dad should give me £5000. Will argue with everything I say. Never wants to do anything other than play his games. Fine with everybody else! I believe he hates me. It's been a long long journey and I'm struggling to keep myself together. Maybe I'm selfish thinking about how I feel or depressed, I'm aware I'm sensitive but those sort of words every so often hurt so much. Sorry for the ramble, I'm praying for some constructive thoughts please x

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  • Hi mate, 

    You're child seen how much you do and care for him , after a meltdown with my son at 15 ,..he was also very angry and abusive ...called me things I won't repeat,..that's when I lost it too,over the years I've been cautious and aware about his needs ,..but I thought no more , so I screamed back at him he was welcome to live with his dad and from now on speaking to me like this is okay ....but from the other side of the door!!....he lasted 1 week ,( and that was because I made him stay,),...because of his asd he takes things literally,....HE GOT THE FRIGHT OF LIFE .....so while he has since has big meltdowns .....he ANGER is focused on those making him angry rather than everyone else whose trying to help him,,,IT WAS A KICK UP THE BACKSIDE HE NEEDED...,...if it seems he's drifting back I just say to try and stay calm go into your room,...sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't, BUT THE LEVEL IT WAS BEFORE HAS THANKFULLY GOT A LOT BETTER,

    Good luck

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  • Hi mate, 

    You're child seen how much you do and care for him , after a meltdown with my son at 15 ,..he was also very angry and abusive ...called me things I won't repeat,..that's when I lost it too,over the years I've been cautious and aware about his needs ,..but I thought no more , so I screamed back at him he was welcome to live with his dad and from now on speaking to me like this is okay ....but from the other side of the door!!....he lasted 1 week ,( and that was because I made him stay,),...because of his asd he takes things literally,....HE GOT THE FRIGHT OF LIFE .....so while he has since has big meltdowns .....he ANGER is focused on those making him angry rather than everyone else whose trying to help him,,,IT WAS A KICK UP THE BACKSIDE HE NEEDED...,...if it seems he's drifting back I just say to try and stay calm go into your room,...sometimes it works sometimes it doesn't, BUT THE LEVEL IT WAS BEFORE HAS THANKFULLY GOT A LOT BETTER,

    Good luck

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