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Who else has been told that your child is too able to qualify for help in mainstream school?

Gregarious

Just that really. My son is 7 and in Y3 mainstrea. He is academically ahead but socially and emotionally behind by 2-3years. He refuses to do work in class and I think sometimes that is due to not understanding or not wanting to say he thinks it's too hard. Teachers think he is naughty. Writing things down is always resisted. The school don't seem to know how to help a child who doesn't just "get" social stuff or ask for help.  Who else is in the same boat? What has worked? What hasn't? Why aren't schools able to support our kids? 

  • agree with all of this, my son is autistic, but got 1A*,6As, 3Bs and 1C at GCSE, and an A and 2Bs in  summer 2016, at AS, but he could in our view have achieved higher grades with the right support, such as revision, organisational, more 1:1 input etc, but even though we had an ed phys evaluation, they didn't recommend statemented support, and although he had individual needs these could be delivered by existing system.

    Couple of other points, few weeks ago, school arranged a meeting for carers to attend of all SEN registered kids, only 2 parents showed up out of possible 350, just me and another dad

    and in that meeting which was with Chair of Governors and Academy Trust, they asked SENCO how many kids on SEN list would get the grades for Uni, out of 200 on the register, my son being one of them, 4 was her answer!

    just last night had to fire an email off to the senco, subject teacher and sixth form head re issues that weren;t resolved by them with my son yesterday, so he had anxiety/anger meltdown at home last night, when of course college is shut!

  • Thanks Lindy. Sorry I should have said we got a diagnosis this year though local SALT. The school were on the fence. Even post diagnosis they weren't offering much until I made a stand - now they are offering things to keep me quiet but it's what suits them rather than what might suit my son. I feel like starting a school for the academically able autists. Mainstream just leave them to cope :(

  • hiya i had a terrible time trying to help not one but both my sons. my eldest son never got the help as i wasn`t clued up and did not know what to do or where to go to get him help, he unfortunatley "slipped through the net", he went undiagnosed  i felt bad for years thinking i failed him.  my youngest son who was only diagnosed aged 14 with asd  , i finally managed to get the help through sheer determination and demanding to get him seen by a child psychologist , it took me years  as the school would say they couldnt work out if he just wasnt socialising or again saying he wasnt listening he basically masked certain situations , but if you feel you arent getting answers go back to your G.P and dont give up..ask for a second  opinion. gather as much information as you can , is there a SENCO or SEN teacher within the school?..being refered to  a speech therapist is what i think would be your best option.. again the school should be your main support on this.