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Hardly anyone bothers with my daughter with asd

ApplePie1991

Hi 
I'm feeling really down because I feel hardly anyone bothers with my child who is on the Autism spectrum. People seem to think it's ok to only see her once every couple of months or so! It's like because she doesn't talk they probably assume she doesn't care Or it's like she's not entertaing enough for people!!!I have a couple of mum friends that like to meet up with us which is lovely but her own godparents hardly bother!! One is related to us aswell!!!! If they ever see her it's an hour visit and my child isn't really that bothered about them so I also assume that's why they hardly bother but it's no surprise if they never see her!! 
Facebook pictures, snap chats they all get ignored!!! I know that's petty but it's so sad!! Her own godparents should know better!!!!!
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  • Hi i understand how you must feel. my husband has rather a large family and no one bothers with us at all.  i have a 16 yr old with asd and life has been so difficult, most of my friends never really understood , they still dont !!,my son wasn`t  diagnosed  tlll he was 14. i also have a 22 yr old with anxiety and every day is another step to helping him as he has no one around him , apart from us ,for support ..  he was bullied from yr 7 right up to when he left , and all along he needed support for his mental health issues, but unfortunately never got it.. please dont give up, , you are not alone , i too understand how hurtful it feels to be shoved to one side!!. my mother is battling cancer and she was my rock, my life is tough at the moment trying to juggle my sons and too care for her.. but i keep going, cos its what we mums do!!, try talking to her godparents and remind them that they took on a commitment to be there for your daughter for the rest of her life, so they should appreciate the fact that they should spend some special time with her . i have spent the last 20 yrs up in arms with my mother &father in law who says if i wanted them to see the kids then i should have taken them to there house ?? my son was diagnosed with asd 2 yr ago , my husband went and told all the family, no one has contacted us and say we have got a problem cos we dont bother with them?.. now you can see only slightly what we have been up against. and to make it worse we dont drive so i feel so isolated sometimes.. it can also feel very lonely.. im sure there are lots of people out there who feel the same.. its there loss if they dont want to bother, one day they will need someone and lets hope they can cope..

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  • Hi i understand how you must feel. my husband has rather a large family and no one bothers with us at all.  i have a 16 yr old with asd and life has been so difficult, most of my friends never really understood , they still dont !!,my son wasn`t  diagnosed  tlll he was 14. i also have a 22 yr old with anxiety and every day is another step to helping him as he has no one around him , apart from us ,for support ..  he was bullied from yr 7 right up to when he left , and all along he needed support for his mental health issues, but unfortunately never got it.. please dont give up, , you are not alone , i too understand how hurtful it feels to be shoved to one side!!. my mother is battling cancer and she was my rock, my life is tough at the moment trying to juggle my sons and too care for her.. but i keep going, cos its what we mums do!!, try talking to her godparents and remind them that they took on a commitment to be there for your daughter for the rest of her life, so they should appreciate the fact that they should spend some special time with her . i have spent the last 20 yrs up in arms with my mother &father in law who says if i wanted them to see the kids then i should have taken them to there house ?? my son was diagnosed with asd 2 yr ago , my husband went and told all the family, no one has contacted us and say we have got a problem cos we dont bother with them?.. now you can see only slightly what we have been up against. and to make it worse we dont drive so i feel so isolated sometimes.. it can also feel very lonely.. im sure there are lots of people out there who feel the same.. its there loss if they dont want to bother, one day they will need someone and lets hope they can cope..

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