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Sister has Aspergers at 22

Steve21

Hi I am new to this forum and hoping that it can help me and my sister. 

My sister is 22 and has recently been diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome. She has no friends and is very isolated. Basically I just want to know has anyone else got a family member with this form of Autism that is of a similar age?

I'm really interested to know what are the achievable goals for her in the future e.g jobs, friends, hobbies etc. 

She has started to attend a support group but as she never talks to me & my mum we don't know how that is going. 

I just want her to live some kind of fulfilling life. I feel she is wasting her youth. I also worry about her future financially. 

Any replies would be great. Thanks. 

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  • Hi, I was recognized by a colleague of my husbands (neurology field) as an aspie at 39 years old. I can tell you that she probably doesn't realize what others percieve her as. There are a lot of things that are a lot harder for her in the social catagory than 'regular' people. For instance I was 30 years old when I realized my coworkers needed niceties to feel comfortable with me. I still forget sometimes. I had no understanding as to why I was clearly different than societal standards for so very long. She probably doesn't want to talk to you or your mom about it because she knows you don't understand. She will appreciate and trust someone whom she knows has been through the same. Would you talk to another woman about your cycle if she's never had one? Same thing. I don't have a necessity for social interaction like other people that's why I chose a career as an accountant. I don't have to talk or interact with people also I live in the country, again solitude. I am married and have had 6 children, 2 of them are still at home. So you see, when she is ready, she can choose her life and be successful. You may want to read about defense mode. 

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  • Hi, I was recognized by a colleague of my husbands (neurology field) as an aspie at 39 years old. I can tell you that she probably doesn't realize what others percieve her as. There are a lot of things that are a lot harder for her in the social catagory than 'regular' people. For instance I was 30 years old when I realized my coworkers needed niceties to feel comfortable with me. I still forget sometimes. I had no understanding as to why I was clearly different than societal standards for so very long. She probably doesn't want to talk to you or your mom about it because she knows you don't understand. She will appreciate and trust someone whom she knows has been through the same. Would you talk to another woman about your cycle if she's never had one? Same thing. I don't have a necessity for social interaction like other people that's why I chose a career as an accountant. I don't have to talk or interact with people also I live in the country, again solitude. I am married and have had 6 children, 2 of them are still at home. So you see, when she is ready, she can choose her life and be successful. You may want to read about defense mode. 

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