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Self harming as a way of self calming alternatives please

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Hi, My son is 14 and has ASD and ADHD along with other associated disabilities. His main problem that has brought me here is his anger and inability to deal with his emotions.

He came home from school yesterday with a bite mark on his hand, when questioned he said he had gotten angry with some kids at school and bitten himself to distract him from his anger.

I would like to say I am very very proud that he self calmed as this has been a huge issue in the past. He would not think before lashing out he would go from calm to angry to hurting someone in a split second. So take away the biting as a method of self calming and I am over joyed. 

I need help coming up with an alternative to biting for him as I don't feel this is a healthy option. It was suggested that an elastic band on the wrist be used. This is a great option but my son with an elastic band is not, it would be taken off and flicked in a millisecond.

Any Ideas?

Thank you

Louise

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  • I dont really know if this is good advice or not but i used do something sorta the same when i got angry i would dig my nail under another nail to stop me from punching people who annoyed me but it had its problems as it wouldnt always work or i would cause my hands to bleed but at school they didnt know i had autism yet but they could tell i had anger issues so i was put to anger therapy where they tought to control the anger by imagining a happy place that you think about any time you get angry. It doesnt always work but it does work better than hurting myself did. so i would recomend trying to get him into anger therapy it might help. My place i think about is a forrest ontop of a cliff that over looks a city

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  • I dont really know if this is good advice or not but i used do something sorta the same when i got angry i would dig my nail under another nail to stop me from punching people who annoyed me but it had its problems as it wouldnt always work or i would cause my hands to bleed but at school they didnt know i had autism yet but they could tell i had anger issues so i was put to anger therapy where they tought to control the anger by imagining a happy place that you think about any time you get angry. It doesnt always work but it does work better than hurting myself did. so i would recomend trying to get him into anger therapy it might help. My place i think about is a forrest ontop of a cliff that over looks a city

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