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Self harming as a way of self calming alternatives please

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Hi, My son is 14 and has ASD and ADHD along with other associated disabilities. His main problem that has brought me here is his anger and inability to deal with his emotions.

He came home from school yesterday with a bite mark on his hand, when questioned he said he had gotten angry with some kids at school and bitten himself to distract him from his anger.

I would like to say I am very very proud that he self calmed as this has been a huge issue in the past. He would not think before lashing out he would go from calm to angry to hurting someone in a split second. So take away the biting as a method of self calming and I am over joyed. 

I need help coming up with an alternative to biting for him as I don't feel this is a healthy option. It was suggested that an elastic band on the wrist be used. This is a great option but my son with an elastic band is not, it would be taken off and flicked in a millisecond.

Any Ideas?

Thank you

Louise

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  • This suggestion may work and it may not. I do the same and i have always done but over the years it changed. When i was 2 i pulled clumps of my hair out then as i grew up it got worse. My new counsellor told me a new way to try and cope with my self harming that de stresses me. She said on one hand count five things you can see in the room you are in at the time you are angry then on the other hand count five things you can feel or hear in the room when you are angry and she said this will bring you to the present and now abd make you focus on something other than the emotions youbare feeling at that moment. I will say though i have not tried it yet so i can not tell you if it works. 

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  • This suggestion may work and it may not. I do the same and i have always done but over the years it changed. When i was 2 i pulled clumps of my hair out then as i grew up it got worse. My new counsellor told me a new way to try and cope with my self harming that de stresses me. She said on one hand count five things you can see in the room you are in at the time you are angry then on the other hand count five things you can feel or hear in the room when you are angry and she said this will bring you to the present and now abd make you focus on something other than the emotions youbare feeling at that moment. I will say though i have not tried it yet so i can not tell you if it works. 

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