advice on what to do please re: anger and aggression

hi all i have a 12yr old son who is aspergers ive really struggled this summer holiday with his anger and aggression. I have two younger children my daughter is 8 and has a serious heart condition and my youngest son is 4 who is currently on the waiting list for an autism assesment. This summer holiday my oldest has broke so many things that i cant possibly afford to replace. His anger and aggression is at the point his younger siblings are scared of him and when he has a meltdown or outburst he scares me. So far he has broke over £400 worth of stuff and when i refuse to replace the items he gets violent or aggressive how can i manage this behaviour? My neighbours are starting to complain about the noise as my son wil constantly slam doors and bang the walls ive explained to my neighbours the situation and they do try to understand but when its everyday all day alot of the time i can understand why they are getting fed up. My son has had art therapy but that hasnt worked CAMHS says he doesnt need anger management and that i just have to deal with it, im at my witts end does anyone know if there is anyone who can help as im struggling thank you

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  • My son is 4 and just been diagnosed with adhd and asd. His meltdowns can last for at least 20 minutes and he gets very aggressive towards me i have had things thrown at me kicked hit even spat at. I find it so hard in public especially not to lose my temper and everyone stares and judges you i feel totally useless as a parent.

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  • My son is 4 and just been diagnosed with adhd and asd. His meltdowns can last for at least 20 minutes and he gets very aggressive towards me i have had things thrown at me kicked hit even spat at. I find it so hard in public especially not to lose my temper and everyone stares and judges you i feel totally useless as a parent.

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