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advice on what to do please re: anger and aggression

mummy of 3

hi all i have a 12yr old son who is aspergers ive really struggled this summer holiday with his anger and aggression. I have two younger children my daughter is 8 and has a serious heart condition and my youngest son is 4 who is currently on the waiting list for an autism assesment. This summer holiday my oldest has broke so many things that i cant possibly afford to replace. His anger and aggression is at the point his younger siblings are scared of him and when he has a meltdown or outburst he scares me. So far he has broke over £400 worth of stuff and when i refuse to replace the items he gets violent or aggressive how can i manage this behaviour? My neighbours are starting to complain about the noise as my son wil constantly slam doors and bang the walls ive explained to my neighbours the situation and they do try to understand but when its everyday all day alot of the time i can understand why they are getting fed up. My son has had art therapy but that hasnt worked CAMHS says he doesnt need anger management and that i just have to deal with it, im at my witts end does anyone know if there is anyone who can help as im struggling thank you

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  • thank you for your replies I do think he is feeling anxious about going back to school so ive been reading his social story to him every day when he asks to read it to help ease some of his anxiety his school have made him an amazing social story about his new class, new teacher etc and we done one for home too, i try to keep his day as routine as possible but like you said its hard when there are days when routine just isnt possible. We did have a social worker until recently and she was useless i begged her to forward us to the disabilities team but she refused saying we didnt meet their criteria for help!!! im just so lost on what to do both my sons dont sleep well even with medication i cant go to sleep until i know they are both asleep as my youngest will wonder around the house if i nod off im exhausted my husband is seriously ill so im under alot of pressure and stress i just want my son to be happy to see that smile back on his face would mean the world to me it really would, i will phone the helpline tomorrow for more advice thanks so much xx

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  • thank you for your replies I do think he is feeling anxious about going back to school so ive been reading his social story to him every day when he asks to read it to help ease some of his anxiety his school have made him an amazing social story about his new class, new teacher etc and we done one for home too, i try to keep his day as routine as possible but like you said its hard when there are days when routine just isnt possible. We did have a social worker until recently and she was useless i begged her to forward us to the disabilities team but she refused saying we didnt meet their criteria for help!!! im just so lost on what to do both my sons dont sleep well even with medication i cant go to sleep until i know they are both asleep as my youngest will wonder around the house if i nod off im exhausted my husband is seriously ill so im under alot of pressure and stress i just want my son to be happy to see that smile back on his face would mean the world to me it really would, i will phone the helpline tomorrow for more advice thanks so much xx

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