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advice on what to do please re: anger and aggression

mummy of 3

hi all i have a 12yr old son who is aspergers ive really struggled this summer holiday with his anger and aggression. I have two younger children my daughter is 8 and has a serious heart condition and my youngest son is 4 who is currently on the waiting list for an autism assesment. This summer holiday my oldest has broke so many things that i cant possibly afford to replace. His anger and aggression is at the point his younger siblings are scared of him and when he has a meltdown or outburst he scares me. So far he has broke over £400 worth of stuff and when i refuse to replace the items he gets violent or aggressive how can i manage this behaviour? My neighbours are starting to complain about the noise as my son wil constantly slam doors and bang the walls ive explained to my neighbours the situation and they do try to understand but when its everyday all day alot of the time i can understand why they are getting fed up. My son has had art therapy but that hasnt worked CAMHS says he doesnt need anger management and that i just have to deal with it, im at my witts end does anyone know if there is anyone who can help as im struggling thank you

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  • Hi, I hope the OT is able to see you quickly. 

    The CAMHS doctor does not sound at all helpful. That was a ridiculous comment. 

    Unstructured time is very hard for those with ASD to deal with, and with the best will in the world, it is very hard for parents to structure the day sufficiently. Does your son do any play-schemes, sport classes or clubs during the hols? This gives everyone a break from each other and puts some structure back into the day. If he doesn't,  this might be something to investigate before the next long holiday.

    Hang in there, only a week of the hols to go!
    He may too be feeling anxious re going back after such a long break. Teacher and timetable changes, the uncertainty of it all.
    Does he have somewhere where he can retreat to, if he needs a break from family life? 
    Melly1

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  • Hi, I hope the OT is able to see you quickly. 

    The CAMHS doctor does not sound at all helpful. That was a ridiculous comment. 

    Unstructured time is very hard for those with ASD to deal with, and with the best will in the world, it is very hard for parents to structure the day sufficiently. Does your son do any play-schemes, sport classes or clubs during the hols? This gives everyone a break from each other and puts some structure back into the day. If he doesn't,  this might be something to investigate before the next long holiday.

    Hang in there, only a week of the hols to go!
    He may too be feeling anxious re going back after such a long break. Teacher and timetable changes, the uncertainty of it all.
    Does he have somewhere where he can retreat to, if he needs a break from family life? 
    Melly1

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