advice on what to do please re: anger and aggression

hi all i have a 12yr old son who is aspergers ive really struggled this summer holiday with his anger and aggression. I have two younger children my daughter is 8 and has a serious heart condition and my youngest son is 4 who is currently on the waiting list for an autism assesment. This summer holiday my oldest has broke so many things that i cant possibly afford to replace. His anger and aggression is at the point his younger siblings are scared of him and when he has a meltdown or outburst he scares me. So far he has broke over £400 worth of stuff and when i refuse to replace the items he gets violent or aggressive how can i manage this behaviour? My neighbours are starting to complain about the noise as my son wil constantly slam doors and bang the walls ive explained to my neighbours the situation and they do try to understand but when its everyday all day alot of the time i can understand why they are getting fed up. My son has had art therapy but that hasnt worked CAMHS says he doesnt need anger management and that i just have to deal with it, im at my witts end does anyone know if there is anyone who can help as im struggling thank you

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  • Hi Melly thank you for your reply, im going to call my sons OT tomorrow as i think you are right he needs his sensory plan assessed again, i have a trampoline in my back garden which my son has full acess to when ever he wants to go on it (some times in the early hours of the morning ) I have tried everything even all the plans his school has in place for him they worked for the first week of the holidays then nothing has worked since i just dont know how to manage his behaviour ive tried time out, star charts, calming excersie, sensory toys, sensory blankets etc it just seems like i cant get to him before a meltdown anymore or when his anger takes full control ive left an urgent message with CAMHS but am not holding my breath as his doctor just keeps telling me its all part of his autism and i just have to cope with it x

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  • Hi Melly thank you for your reply, im going to call my sons OT tomorrow as i think you are right he needs his sensory plan assessed again, i have a trampoline in my back garden which my son has full acess to when ever he wants to go on it (some times in the early hours of the morning ) I have tried everything even all the plans his school has in place for him they worked for the first week of the holidays then nothing has worked since i just dont know how to manage his behaviour ive tried time out, star charts, calming excersie, sensory toys, sensory blankets etc it just seems like i cant get to him before a meltdown anymore or when his anger takes full control ive left an urgent message with CAMHS but am not holding my breath as his doctor just keeps telling me its all part of his autism and i just have to cope with it x

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