Problem at school, but can't explain...

 Hi. Hoping somebody reading this might be able to help. My daughter (A. 9yrs old, Aspie) has a problem of some description at school. I say 'a problem of some description' because, try as I might, I can't seem to find a way of getting her to find the right words to explain exactly what it is without her getting so anxious that she starts to cry. All I've managed to glean is that it's something to do with a group of children at school, and the problems getting worse (her words). She hates school now (as a result) and will find every cuss word that isn't swearing to vent just how much she hates it, or she'll cry and get herself really worked up. She's never been one to act like this about school, and I don't know what to do to help her. She's only been diagnosed for 5 months, her peer group isn't aware of her diagnosis as yet (she's hoping to tell them at some stage after this half-term with the help of the ASD outreach team). How can I help her if she wants to explain but can't? (Incidentally,(A.) saw me writing this. She wants me to tell you that it's VERY IMPORTANT). I know that she really wants to tell me and get some help, but she just can't. What should I do???

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  • how's this for an explanation from an autistic person who never liked school...

    studying causes stress. mandatory education is like child slavery.

    and the bullying... the way to deal with bullying is to leave the environment where the bullies reside, to move on and avoid the conflict... but school won't let that happen... i have sympathy for your 9-year-old daughter and also for yourself as the parent who is bound by the government to force your child into the education system!

    to sum up, please avoid at all costs saying this is the girl's problem when she's only behaving naturally, she's a victim of the environment and is behaving very elegantly considering the circumstances

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  • how's this for an explanation from an autistic person who never liked school...

    studying causes stress. mandatory education is like child slavery.

    and the bullying... the way to deal with bullying is to leave the environment where the bullies reside, to move on and avoid the conflict... but school won't let that happen... i have sympathy for your 9-year-old daughter and also for yourself as the parent who is bound by the government to force your child into the education system!

    to sum up, please avoid at all costs saying this is the girl's problem when she's only behaving naturally, she's a victim of the environment and is behaving very elegantly considering the circumstances

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