Hello,
I am having issues with my youngest autistic son who is 11. He has always been a thrower and a breaker, I can't begin to list the damage he has caused to possessions and property over the years. He is also very detached from me and always has been. He shys away from physical affection, refuses to talk to me when he is upset and will lash out at me and spit at me.
Recently I am walking on eggshells around him. His anger is very impulsive and somtimes for no apparent reason. Lately he has been telling me to kill myself, he hopes I die of a dreadful disease. He has also said such things to other people. He constantly throws objects and sometimes it even appears that he is purposefully trying to break things. Today he deliberatly broke one of his brothers birthday presents in front of him. He appears to have no regards at all for consequences of his actions / words. I do try to impose sanctions for this behaviour but he gets very aggressive towards me on such occassions and tells me he doesn't care if he does something so bad that the police have to be involved. He just does not communicate with me when he gets angry therefore I can't help him. I fear for his future. We have zero CAMHS support in the area due to cutbacks and he is very difficult to work with on a one to one basis. I am at a total loss how I can help him control his anger. I have always told him that it is ok to be angry but it is not ok to get physical with it. I don't want him to think that anger is a bad thing to have, it just needs to be controlled. His behaviour is affecting the entire household at the moment and we are all quite miserable at the moment. I just feel like I'm bashing my head against a wall. Has anyone else had such issues which they have somehow managed to improve?
Many thanks
