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Throwing in the towel

Mrsberry

Hi all, my son is 14 and has severe autism, non verbal with added behaviour problems. I am seriously considering asking the (rubbish) social worker about residentail care as im completely broken and just cant do it anymore, i have 2 younger children ages 7 and 10 and my other half who also suffers with bipolar and i just dont cope at all anymore, my son gets 4 night respite every 3 weeks due to his behaviour and i seem to spend my life counting the days for every stay, its not life for me or my other kids as we cant go out, do fun things as my son wont go out. He absolutly loves going to respite and hates coming home, its like a kick in the guts every time. I have no friends and just my mother who seems to think its easy and when i mentioned him going in a care home she says im abandoing him and i *dont want him, just going to throw him away* so as you can see i dont get much support. Does anyone have experience of doing this? do i even have a chance of doing it before hes 16 ( they have told me once hes 16 they can begin his case for it) the thought of another 2 years is making me more depressed then i already am. Any advice is much apreciated x

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    Hi Mrsberry,

    I do not envy your position but I do have some inkling of what you are going through. I can only offer my best wishes and support from afar. You have probably achieved a great deal by getting this far with so little support.

    I don't have the direct experience you are talking about but I have a couple of other thoughts.

    Have you had any support workers coming in to help you with him? He sounds as though he is eligible for Disability Living Allowance and that could be used to pay for someone to come in to help look after him.

    You say that your husband has bipolar. Has he been tested for autism/aspergers? There are lots of people on the forum who have been misadiagnosed with all sorts of disorders before someone works out that autism might be the root cause of their issues. your son my have inherited traits that have developed into severe autism, it is often worth looking at other family members in these situations as it can help resolve other issues.

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    Hi Mrsberry,

    I do not envy your position but I do have some inkling of what you are going through. I can only offer my best wishes and support from afar. You have probably achieved a great deal by getting this far with so little support.

    I don't have the direct experience you are talking about but I have a couple of other thoughts.

    Have you had any support workers coming in to help you with him? He sounds as though he is eligible for Disability Living Allowance and that could be used to pay for someone to come in to help look after him.

    You say that your husband has bipolar. Has he been tested for autism/aspergers? There are lots of people on the forum who have been misadiagnosed with all sorts of disorders before someone works out that autism might be the root cause of their issues. your son my have inherited traits that have developed into severe autism, it is often worth looking at other family members in these situations as it can help resolve other issues.

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