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exclusion yet again!

mumof5

My 13 yr old son who has ASD has again been excluded from school for swearing at teacher, he is in mainstream school with statement.

 

The school has been advised by a specialist that exclusion or detention is not the answer to his problems yet they still find any excuse to send him home. can anyone give me a bit of advice as to where to go from here, the school does not seem to be listening to advice from the professionals. When things go wrong at school the TA is ment to take my son out the situation and get to the bottom of what went wrong but they just get the teacher's side and not my son's.

seem to be banging my head against brick wall with it all, i try and help the school when he plays up but seems to be thrown back in my face.

Sorry for the rant

peggy

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  • Hi there.

    I really sympathise - this happened to my son on a number of occasions.

    Firstly, get support from the NAS helpline. They were fantastic with us - really helpful.

    Secondly, from my own experience I can suggest the following.

    Are his exclusions formal - ie on his school record, or are they "just" sending him home for the rest of the day so they don't have to deal with him any more? The latter is NOT allowed. My son's first school did this regularly until we eventually realised and challenged them on it.

    If the exclusions are formal, then again, you should challenge them, but via the local authority. If the exclusions are directly related to his disability, as my son's were, and particularly if they, the school are not following an agreed procedure, then again, they are not allowed. It's against the DDA to exclude when it's directly related to the disability. We challenged our school via the LEA and were successful in not only getting the exclusion taken off his record, but also a change in attitude, as I think they realised they had to find other ways of dealing with my son's admittedly challenging behaviour. They also then started to put more in place to support him.

    Schools will often play on the fact that they seem to hold the power, so you need to get the support to take it back. My son's head teacher told me he had no choice but to exclude him - which was a lie, which he later admitted to me. He quoted the LEA's policy on exclusion to me, but I'd read it and knew it was up to the head's discretion as to whether or not he excluded my son.

    Sorry to use so many of my own examples here - I really hope you can get a change of attitude from your school. Professional support for you is the best thing and the helpline should be a good start. Also, is there anyone else who can argue your case at meetings? Our Spectrum Support worker and Ed. Psych are both brilliant and make us feel we're not alone.

    Good luck!

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  • Hi there.

    I really sympathise - this happened to my son on a number of occasions.

    Firstly, get support from the NAS helpline. They were fantastic with us - really helpful.

    Secondly, from my own experience I can suggest the following.

    Are his exclusions formal - ie on his school record, or are they "just" sending him home for the rest of the day so they don't have to deal with him any more? The latter is NOT allowed. My son's first school did this regularly until we eventually realised and challenged them on it.

    If the exclusions are formal, then again, you should challenge them, but via the local authority. If the exclusions are directly related to his disability, as my son's were, and particularly if they, the school are not following an agreed procedure, then again, they are not allowed. It's against the DDA to exclude when it's directly related to the disability. We challenged our school via the LEA and were successful in not only getting the exclusion taken off his record, but also a change in attitude, as I think they realised they had to find other ways of dealing with my son's admittedly challenging behaviour. They also then started to put more in place to support him.

    Schools will often play on the fact that they seem to hold the power, so you need to get the support to take it back. My son's head teacher told me he had no choice but to exclude him - which was a lie, which he later admitted to me. He quoted the LEA's policy on exclusion to me, but I'd read it and knew it was up to the head's discretion as to whether or not he excluded my son.

    Sorry to use so many of my own examples here - I really hope you can get a change of attitude from your school. Professional support for you is the best thing and the helpline should be a good start. Also, is there anyone else who can argue your case at meetings? Our Spectrum Support worker and Ed. Psych are both brilliant and make us feel we're not alone.

    Good luck!

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