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Daughter not being invited to birthday parties

mrs.snooks

I have Aspergers myself and have very few friends and now my Asperger's daughter (aged 8) has come to me saying that she has not been invited to two girls parties in her class (the class has 9 other girls). We invited both these girls to my daughter's party. She is really upset and doesn't understand why they would not invite her. I am really upset too as it just feeds into the overwelming fear that my daughter will become just as lonely and isolated as how I am now.

Any advice very welcome.

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  • There could be any number of reasons why your daughter was not invited - maybe the girls had smaller parties? Maybe cost of invitations played a part? Some activities are costed by child. Maybe the type of party led to restrictions on numbers etc... of course there could well be more to it but equally it could be something as simple as this and unfortunate that it occured with both. It could be that the girls only invited their closest friends rather than everyone in the class for example as well.

    I can imagine it is hard my daughter is only 3 so not at school yet and something we have yet to encounter but I would encourage your daugther to see that there could be lots of reasons which are not related to her and then maybe boost her confidence by suggesting a nice treat/outing with you or a favourite friend so she still has something to look forward to and enjoy. Maybe you could ask a favourite friend of hers and their mum so you could get to know the mum too?

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  • There could be any number of reasons why your daughter was not invited - maybe the girls had smaller parties? Maybe cost of invitations played a part? Some activities are costed by child. Maybe the type of party led to restrictions on numbers etc... of course there could well be more to it but equally it could be something as simple as this and unfortunate that it occured with both. It could be that the girls only invited their closest friends rather than everyone in the class for example as well.

    I can imagine it is hard my daughter is only 3 so not at school yet and something we have yet to encounter but I would encourage your daugther to see that there could be lots of reasons which are not related to her and then maybe boost her confidence by suggesting a nice treat/outing with you or a favourite friend so she still has something to look forward to and enjoy. Maybe you could ask a favourite friend of hers and their mum so you could get to know the mum too?

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