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Potty Training 3yr old

mrssmith05

Hi, my son is almost 3, he has just begun the diagnosis process. I left potty training him till quite late as i didnt think he was ready. But low and behold he got it straight away-dry night and day within a week! Sounds good till i mention that he wont poo!!! He has a few times pood on the potty and been praised for doing so but recently he is just pooing in his underwear-seamingly unaware he is doing it. HELP!!! He doesnt do it all in one go either but over a whole day sometimes-this is really becoming a problem-any ideas??? X

  • schedules/visuals can work well,however while having a wee on the loo may be got early,poop is differant,sometimes we are just not ready to poo on the loo,sometimes it may be sensory i.e the echo in the bathroom,the splash of the water etc

    to him poo will not be seen as something bad

    visual schedules may help especially if his poos are pridictable

  • Thank you so much for your replies,its good to know im not the only one having problems (i mean that in the nicest possible way lol) Onward and upward!

  • Hello mrssmith05

    I've found toilet training to be a lengthy process with both of my children. Try not to get too stressed about it - much easier said than done I realise!

    Here's some website information which may be of use to you:

    http://www.autism.org.uk/living-with-autism/understanding-behaviour/toilet-training.aspx

    There's a lot there that won't be relevant since you're already part way there but you might find something helpful further through. It does say in there that bowel control tends to come later than bladder control, so it's possible that's where the stumbling block is. Like DebS, I'd say hang in there - he'll get there in the end. Smile

    Good luck.

    Sandra - mod

  • Hello there,

    I'm no expert, but can share with you our experience.  Our son, who is diagnosed with autism, was a few months past his 3rd birthday when he suddenly decided to wee on the potty.  I had delayed it as I didn't think he was ready, but spending time out in the garden around the paddling pool in the summer with his female cousins seemed to teach him what to do.  It took him a week or so, but he got the wee side done fairly easily.  He is 3 and a half now and although dry nights looked promising at first, he has regressed with that and has a wet nappy each morning. As for poo's ...  It really did take us about 8 weeks.  Like you, we had a few tiny poo's on the potty, but then a refusal to poo anywhere.  He seemed stressed when it came to needing a poo and would often dance around with agony/stress and would not/ could not poo...anywhere.  I tried putting a nappy back on him to persuade him it was ok, and to give him some relief, but this did not help.  Our health advisor told us to give him ground linseed so the poo would just slip out without him being able to stop it, (for his benefit) but I didn't like that idea so didn't do it.  We had weeks and weeks of semi-soiled pants, 10 pairs a day was normal.  He would not sit on the loo, or potty, but every 4 - 7 days, he would be so desperate and I would just catch him at the right moment and get him to the toilet.  Ready for the gruesome bit...? I would crouch opposite him and hold him there on the loo, and grunt and say "push....  " and make all the right noises and facial expressions! (got a good image in your head I am sure) Huge rewards if anything came out (of him).  And suddenly he got it.  The process seemed to go on forever, two months at least.  What can I say... hang in there?  Good luck. x