Published on 12, July, 2020
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my first ever blog post:
I'm WINGING IT again.
I've given it thought and I think now I'll say:
My oldest son has an Aspergers brain. There. *Long exhale of breath*
He knows it.
Frankly, he tells everyone he meets.
He 'gets' it; His brain is wired a unique way and it makes him awesome. Simple, right ?
But, actually, no. Not simple.
He is beginning to discover everyone else doesn't get it, this simple fact. Even me, at times (*gulp*). Yes, EVEN I cringe sometimes when he announces it.
More and more he is understanding it's more COMPLEX than just his personality makeup, the way I explained it to him back when he was aged 8... He's different. And it often hurts.
He's kind and people are mean back.
He's honest and passionate about being fair and just, but others come out on top by lying and tricking the people in charge in his life.
He knows TONS about some topics and is so enthusiastic to make you an expert too, for FREE, but you're not interested. In fact , his energy makes you frustrated. It feels like he's sharing his most exciting news and all we want to do is argue or rubbish it.
He sits down at the school canteen table with a smile on his face, and you all get up and leave?! - and the world says HE'S the one with social interaction difficulties?
High school is hurtling towards my son like an oncoming high speed train and there's a blunt challenge in his outlook - I'm Aspergers. How will this high school business cope with me? I admit it, I'm as nervous as him. More so. I'm not ready for a big wide world!
I want acceptance for him
I want inclusion
I want happiness SO much
But actually I want more than that. I want people to say 'lucky you!' to me... And see what I see, and believe I am blessed.
WTF, a syndrome?!! Without Aspergers brains we wouldn't have Microsoft, Lego, NASA, Apple and Facebook ... To name but a few CORE aspects of life as we know it! Is this amazing brain REALLY a disability?
So socially he's a bit, well – "blunt in conversations, justice oriented, black and white in his thinking, awkward in eye-contact, overly-focused on a few subjects, has odd speech at times, misreads some social cues and can be clumsy"....
But I say... So? Are we each perfect, us Non-Aspies?
He's BRILLIANT.
Beyond tender and concerned when you're sad.
He'll never try to belittle you.
Be your friend regardless of how you look or sound.
Soooooo demonstrative of his affection. Big HUGS!
A deep thinker, passionate to make a difference in this lifetime he's been given ... An unquenchable energy and drive.
Honest. ALWAYS.
And yet...a Comic! A bubbling up longing to see you abandon whatever is holding you back - and join him in LAUGHTER. He can be hilarious!
My son definitely makes the world brighter. I wouldn't have him any other way. Yes, there's challenges for him and by extension, me and us, his family... But I would be lost without his amazingly wired mind. He brings me soooo much love and happiness and his vulnerability is precious.
He's a gift, and I hope by raising awareness people like my son won't feel alone , misunderstood , sad, angry or frustrated that they can't find their place.
DIVERSITY SHOULD BE CELEBRATED
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Hello,
I have a 10yr old daughter with clothing issues also. I've been finding it hard this last few weeks (since a fortnight before the end of term really) & the clothing issues have become worse. It actually reassured me a bit to hear about your clothing struggles - not that I would want you to have them too, but I thought Wow I'm not going insane!! so thank you for that.
How do you manage please with name calling & physicality. I feel very hurt by this ? We are noticing a change in the recent weeks as she's growing up.
Thank you in advance
Oh! I meant to say as well that my son loves minecraft and wants to be a gamer when he's older..perhaps we could get the two of them together somehow.
We live in Scotland, how about you?
Hi,
I agree totally..my hubby has high functioning aspergers, as well as my son, and despite they're issues, they are such kind and loving people..you just wish the rest of the world could see it!
My son's main issue at the moment is clothing..just about ok when put on but when he then has to get up and walk around in them..look out!
I ended up crying this morning, due to sheer desperation and simply not knowing how to handle him at times..I had put his school shoes on, he kicked them off, then just before 9am, I put them back on being called every name you can imagine and being physically pushed around at the same time.
What issues are you having to deal with?
Love your post!
I have an amazing high functioning son who is a lovely boy, no harm in him at all. I just wish they would just let him be. He'd love someone to talk gaming with, but if they don't want to be his friend please leave him alone and stop picking on him. If only we could change them. Accept difference.....
Wow!
My feelings exactly..I too have an 11 year old boy, a hubby too, both with Aspergers.
Its the rest of the world that needs help, wouldn't you say??
Be good to chat with you.