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Worried about autistic brother's meltdowns

JustJessica

Hi, my younger brother has autism and recently he's been getting increasingly violent. He's eleven, our parent's are divorced. Mum left about 5 years ago, so it's just me my Dad and brother. We do visit her, but really just for birthdays/Christmas, she lives quite far away.

Anyway, the other day Dad told my brother (no, he YELLED at him) never to answer the phone since it'll be someone selling things which, of course, he took very literally and now hangs up on everyone without letting them speak first. This is bad as I'm waiting on a job offer and last thing I want is him hanging up on them. While Dad was out I tried to calmly explain to him why he shouldn't do that but he must have gotten confused and it escalated into a meltdown with him punching, pulling my hair, yelling curses and pulling a kitchen knife on me. This is about the 3rd/4th time he's threatened me/Dad at knifepoint. I couldn't help it, I just started crying, I don't know what to do, how to communicate with him. He's already practically my height, and he hasn't even hit puberty yet, god knows what might happen when he's my age (I'm eighteen.) I just...idk, I need to get through to him somehow. Especially before I go off to Uni, Dad's even worse with him than I am, so when I'm off and away anything could happen, honestly I'm so worried. What should I do?

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  • I talked to my Dad a couple times about it, he says I should either let it go or do something about it. I'll book an appointment with his GP next week to get him refered to a child psychologist/psychiatrist about his anger...Idk how much Dad knows about autism, just that he's not supposed to lose his temper when my brother gets mad, and look out for things that might trigger him.

    My brother gets help from a TA and he has counselling every month but clearly that's not working with whatever's upsetting him. He's managing alright from what I've heard but he's about to enter secondary school. That's the big worry, year 7 was hell. I think he might have aspergers syndrome too since he's very bright but also very literal and introverted.

    I don't know, it felt good to talk about it at least. Everything's calmed down now but there's still some tension. For now I think I'll put the knives away, call the GP on Monday.

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  • I talked to my Dad a couple times about it, he says I should either let it go or do something about it. I'll book an appointment with his GP next week to get him refered to a child psychologist/psychiatrist about his anger...Idk how much Dad knows about autism, just that he's not supposed to lose his temper when my brother gets mad, and look out for things that might trigger him.

    My brother gets help from a TA and he has counselling every month but clearly that's not working with whatever's upsetting him. He's managing alright from what I've heard but he's about to enter secondary school. That's the big worry, year 7 was hell. I think he might have aspergers syndrome too since he's very bright but also very literal and introverted.

    I don't know, it felt good to talk about it at least. Everything's calmed down now but there's still some tension. For now I think I'll put the knives away, call the GP on Monday.

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