Stealing and lying and teenage boys

Also the whole school/college does not work for everyone, I would suggest communicating with education settings via email and using this paper trail to seek young persons learning programmes in your area, supported training, work experience placements from 6 weeks to six months and apprenticeships. Guidance towards independent living and travelling. 

You can also ask the local council for a EHCPNA as a parent carer, which is a needs assessment for a EHCP you give your evidence and then they will request evidence from the educational setting. 

I would suggest you include evidence from birth, highlight comments on school reports with regards to concentration, distracted, disruptive, not paying attention, not doing homework, etc ... failed cycles in in house senco Independent learning plans, and exclusions and also emotional impact this has on your child. I would also express if his education and academia does not reflect his IQ levels and his ability to share information or the need to elaborate on it being a literal thinker. 

I hope for the very best for you and your son. It is very challenging. 

Kindest regards 

Rebecca 

Have you ever discussed banking. 

Without the pretext of fifa and the paypal situation. 

Talk about banking and the idea of him managing his own pocket money/allowance

Explain how deposits and withdrawals work, 

And also what credit is and how interest and charges get added for various reasons. 

Keep it simple, I would recommend with diagrams and mock statements to give the information in various forms. 

After a few weeks I would then set up an account and deposit an agreed amount or percentage of his pocket money. 

Remove your paypal from the XBox and set his card up on there for games and in game DCs purchasing. Once his bank is empty he cant purchase any more and he can learn to save with the banking app or choose not to. But buying the next new release may require some saving up for. 

Instead of pointing out the theft, and making him feel guilty it may be a better approach to allow him to work out himself how he would feel if he had interest or charges or even someone else remove money from his account he thought he had available and give him a better chance of understanding. Taking his money or doing it in a how do you feel if I do it to you is definitely not what I am suggesting though it more of a step towards independence, understanding money and ownership of it. 

Hope that helps. 

Kind regards Rebecca 

rather unhelpful possibly but when needs must.  Open a different bank account where you keep all your 'cash' in and do not use it online at all so he can't access any details. Keep the current card so he can continue to use that but with very limited 'pocket money' on it.  I don't know how practical this would be for you but just a suggestion.

Thank you- I'll have a read

 rather disappointing response from easports which is either computer generated or written by a non English speaker. Case closed. No interest In my email. 

I don't know if this behaviour falls under PDA http://www.autism.org.uk/about/what-is/pda.aspx I guess you may get some tips on dealing with him by looking at advice related to that?

Thank you recombinantsocks- that's a lovely suggestion but it's more how I help him to stop doing it that concerns me most. You did however trigger an awesome thought, and I have just emailed the game makers raising the issue and asking if they've ever considered an autism friendly game that allows them the same fun game play but without making them so vulnerable to messing up. We shall see if they reply. . .

If you explain those circumstances to the game's operators then they may well refund the money and cancel the purchases that he has made. Your credit card and/or Paypal may be able to help too.