Teenage daughter

My teenage daughter is being difficult.  Out of pure hostility she has emptied cleaning fluids on the floor, and toy beads over the stairs and has emptied shaving foam all over the bathroom door.  She won't clean up.  We, her parents, are powerless in that regard.  Now she has put her coat on and gone out.  Normally she's a house-body and hardly ever goes out.  Because it's in the middle of the day, I'm not worried.  I believe that she'll come back when things start getting difficult/scary - she doesn't like the dark.  She gives us the silent treatment, so it's hard to communicate with her.  If anybody has been through this kind of behaviour, I would appreciate any advice.  Unless you have, you couldn't understand how awful it is to have a teenager that is miserable most of the time, and so unreasonable.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Hi JT,

    Just read this post, I've been busy with work and other distractions!

    Autistic youth clubs are one of those things that sound like a really good idea. However, they can be really terrible place for someone with autism (although some people will cope well). Autistic people can be difficult to deal with and we can be even worse at dealing with other autistic people than we can with non autistic people. The depth of difficulty of social interaction can be multiplied if more autistic people are involved in a situation! Also, the noise and number of people in an enclosed space may lead to feelings of being overwhelmed. If there is loud music then this can again make the situation worse.

    It can also lead to further disappointment if she finds that she cannot cope with the one place that really should be suitable for her.

    PS I appreciate your appreciation! Autism is a very mysterious and difficult thing to grasp. I got diagnosed 2 years ago and still don't really understand it. Making attempts at helping in this forum helps me understand more about it. I also agree with the points that the Carly and Mags have said. You have to be pragmatic and deal with it with an open mind.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Hi JT,

    Just read this post, I've been busy with work and other distractions!

    Autistic youth clubs are one of those things that sound like a really good idea. However, they can be really terrible place for someone with autism (although some people will cope well). Autistic people can be difficult to deal with and we can be even worse at dealing with other autistic people than we can with non autistic people. The depth of difficulty of social interaction can be multiplied if more autistic people are involved in a situation! Also, the noise and number of people in an enclosed space may lead to feelings of being overwhelmed. If there is loud music then this can again make the situation worse.

    It can also lead to further disappointment if she finds that she cannot cope with the one place that really should be suitable for her.

    PS I appreciate your appreciation! Autism is a very mysterious and difficult thing to grasp. I got diagnosed 2 years ago and still don't really understand it. Making attempts at helping in this forum helps me understand more about it. I also agree with the points that the Carly and Mags have said. You have to be pragmatic and deal with it with an open mind.

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