Teenage daughter

My teenage daughter is being difficult.  Out of pure hostility she has emptied cleaning fluids on the floor, and toy beads over the stairs and has emptied shaving foam all over the bathroom door.  She won't clean up.  We, her parents, are powerless in that regard.  Now she has put her coat on and gone out.  Normally she's a house-body and hardly ever goes out.  Because it's in the middle of the day, I'm not worried.  I believe that she'll come back when things start getting difficult/scary - she doesn't like the dark.  She gives us the silent treatment, so it's hard to communicate with her.  If anybody has been through this kind of behaviour, I would appreciate any advice.  Unless you have, you couldn't understand how awful it is to have a teenager that is miserable most of the time, and so unreasonable.

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    JenniferTree said:

    Thank you all for your replies.

    ...

    But I still don't understand her.

    And you probably won't ever understand her completely but you won't ever stop trying to understand her and that is what counts? Autism is a really difficult thing to understand from the inside i.e. from her/our point of view - I am still struggling with working it out for myself and can appreciate how hard it must be for a teenager to deal with it.

    She will crave love and understanding and she will not understand and accept criticism and demands that she does not understand. You are absolutely right to take the pressure off regarding achieving at school. Try and enable her with assistance and encouragement rather than setting targets and constraints.

    I don't know that this forum is the best place for a teenager (there is an age limit in the rules in any case) - but she should be encouraged to talk about her problems.

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  • Former Member
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    JenniferTree said:

    Thank you all for your replies.

    ...

    But I still don't understand her.

    And you probably won't ever understand her completely but you won't ever stop trying to understand her and that is what counts? Autism is a really difficult thing to understand from the inside i.e. from her/our point of view - I am still struggling with working it out for myself and can appreciate how hard it must be for a teenager to deal with it.

    She will crave love and understanding and she will not understand and accept criticism and demands that she does not understand. You are absolutely right to take the pressure off regarding achieving at school. Try and enable her with assistance and encouragement rather than setting targets and constraints.

    I don't know that this forum is the best place for a teenager (there is an age limit in the rules in any case) - but she should be encouraged to talk about her problems.

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