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Teenage daughter

JenniferTree

My teenage daughter is being difficult.  Out of pure hostility she has emptied cleaning fluids on the floor, and toy beads over the stairs and has emptied shaving foam all over the bathroom door.  She won't clean up.  We, her parents, are powerless in that regard.  Now she has put her coat on and gone out.  Normally she's a house-body and hardly ever goes out.  Because it's in the middle of the day, I'm not worried.  I believe that she'll come back when things start getting difficult/scary - she doesn't like the dark.  She gives us the silent treatment, so it's hard to communicate with her.  If anybody has been through this kind of behaviour, I would appreciate any advice.  Unless you have, you couldn't understand how awful it is to have a teenager that is miserable most of the time, and so unreasonable.

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  • Thank you for your good advice Mags66, I could never truly know how it feels to be autistic, and that is the advantage that autistic people have over me (despite it being a spectrum that even I must be on to a lesser or greater degree with different aspects of who I am.)  There's no question of me feeling that my daughter is a disappointment, shame or embarrasment, I've never felt any of those things, and no child should feel that their parents feel that about them.  It's a privelege to be a mum.  It's also really trickier than you would imagine to be a good mum.  With all the best intentions, and greatest efforts it's still easier than you think to go wrong and that's when it feels like a thankless task, when it's your own child that complains.  My daughter might have had a melatonine problem since she was very young, and it's had a very bad impact on her (concentration problems etc.)  Could it have been discovered earlier?  Should I have taken all sorts of things more seriously?  These are all questions that I won't be able to answer.

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  • Thank you for your good advice Mags66, I could never truly know how it feels to be autistic, and that is the advantage that autistic people have over me (despite it being a spectrum that even I must be on to a lesser or greater degree with different aspects of who I am.)  There's no question of me feeling that my daughter is a disappointment, shame or embarrasment, I've never felt any of those things, and no child should feel that their parents feel that about them.  It's a privelege to be a mum.  It's also really trickier than you would imagine to be a good mum.  With all the best intentions, and greatest efforts it's still easier than you think to go wrong and that's when it feels like a thankless task, when it's your own child that complains.  My daughter might have had a melatonine problem since she was very young, and it's had a very bad impact on her (concentration problems etc.)  Could it have been discovered earlier?  Should I have taken all sorts of things more seriously?  These are all questions that I won't be able to answer.

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