Teenage daughter

My teenage daughter is being difficult.  Out of pure hostility she has emptied cleaning fluids on the floor, and toy beads over the stairs and has emptied shaving foam all over the bathroom door.  She won't clean up.  We, her parents, are powerless in that regard.  Now she has put her coat on and gone out.  Normally she's a house-body and hardly ever goes out.  Because it's in the middle of the day, I'm not worried.  I believe that she'll come back when things start getting difficult/scary - she doesn't like the dark.  She gives us the silent treatment, so it's hard to communicate with her.  If anybody has been through this kind of behaviour, I would appreciate any advice.  Unless you have, you couldn't understand how awful it is to have a teenager that is miserable most of the time, and so unreasonable.

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  • Why don't you suggest (to your daughter) that she register here? Maybe she will get some support and understanding from people who are likewise. There are not many avenues open for people like her, I am sure she would find total acceptance and maybe even get some advice from others who have struggled with the lack of information surrounding autism. I really do feel for her. Perhaps her poems would be appriciated too. I always write poems- it's the only way to get my feelings out. There has been some pretty dark stuff written. And trust me, the majority have been written when I have been suffering. Not just from the sensory issues; hostility; agrophobia; impending doom; depression but mostly from the "victim" badge a certain someone has always worn. Do you know how it feels when the one person who you should be able to count on, feels sorry for themselves; that they make you feel like you are a curse? Do you know how it feels when you need help to communicate, only to see your mum; 'centre of your universe', pulling a face, appologising for you  being so 'difficult' to the person who you are trying so desparately hard to get them to understand what you are trying to say? Do you know how it feels to be totally isolated and not be able to show your feelings, crave for someone to make you feel secure, hug you like they do your little brother, look at you like they look at the others but everytime they look at you, there is disappointment, embarrasment, shame? I don't know how your daughter feels...but 'someone' should. I truly hope she gets the help she deserves. This is not meant to be an attack on yourself by the way, my heart just goes out to her.

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  • Why don't you suggest (to your daughter) that she register here? Maybe she will get some support and understanding from people who are likewise. There are not many avenues open for people like her, I am sure she would find total acceptance and maybe even get some advice from others who have struggled with the lack of information surrounding autism. I really do feel for her. Perhaps her poems would be appriciated too. I always write poems- it's the only way to get my feelings out. There has been some pretty dark stuff written. And trust me, the majority have been written when I have been suffering. Not just from the sensory issues; hostility; agrophobia; impending doom; depression but mostly from the "victim" badge a certain someone has always worn. Do you know how it feels when the one person who you should be able to count on, feels sorry for themselves; that they make you feel like you are a curse? Do you know how it feels when you need help to communicate, only to see your mum; 'centre of your universe', pulling a face, appologising for you  being so 'difficult' to the person who you are trying so desparately hard to get them to understand what you are trying to say? Do you know how it feels to be totally isolated and not be able to show your feelings, crave for someone to make you feel secure, hug you like they do your little brother, look at you like they look at the others but everytime they look at you, there is disappointment, embarrasment, shame? I don't know how your daughter feels...but 'someone' should. I truly hope she gets the help she deserves. This is not meant to be an attack on yourself by the way, my heart just goes out to her.

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