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Teenage daughter

JenniferTree

My teenage daughter is being difficult.  Out of pure hostility she has emptied cleaning fluids on the floor, and toy beads over the stairs and has emptied shaving foam all over the bathroom door.  She won't clean up.  We, her parents, are powerless in that regard.  Now she has put her coat on and gone out.  Normally she's a house-body and hardly ever goes out.  Because it's in the middle of the day, I'm not worried.  I believe that she'll come back when things start getting difficult/scary - she doesn't like the dark.  She gives us the silent treatment, so it's hard to communicate with her.  If anybody has been through this kind of behaviour, I would appreciate any advice.  Unless you have, you couldn't understand how awful it is to have a teenager that is miserable most of the time, and so unreasonable.

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    I am emotionally intact but often completely unable to identify other peoples emotions when dealing face to face. A lot of my understanding of this situation came post-diagnosis from reading lots on this forum and reading books on the subject. It doesn't come naturally and it is sometimes better in theory than in practice.

    You have choices and I think you have taken the point well. But you actually don't have the choice to do everything, that is not actually possible. You can only do so much and let some other things go. 

    As you say, your husband has to choose to seek more insight. Your daughter too. You actually can't force them to do this but you can open doors and let them walk through them.

    Has you husband done the aqtest? http://aspergerstest.net/aq-test/ This is an amazingly good indicator (it isn't a diagnosis though) about whether someone may be on the spectrum.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    I am emotionally intact but often completely unable to identify other peoples emotions when dealing face to face. A lot of my understanding of this situation came post-diagnosis from reading lots on this forum and reading books on the subject. It doesn't come naturally and it is sometimes better in theory than in practice.

    You have choices and I think you have taken the point well. But you actually don't have the choice to do everything, that is not actually possible. You can only do so much and let some other things go. 

    As you say, your husband has to choose to seek more insight. Your daughter too. You actually can't force them to do this but you can open doors and let them walk through them.

    Has you husband done the aqtest? http://aspergerstest.net/aq-test/ This is an amazingly good indicator (it isn't a diagnosis though) about whether someone may be on the spectrum.

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