Teenage daughter

My teenage daughter is being difficult.  Out of pure hostility she has emptied cleaning fluids on the floor, and toy beads over the stairs and has emptied shaving foam all over the bathroom door.  She won't clean up.  We, her parents, are powerless in that regard.  Now she has put her coat on and gone out.  Normally she's a house-body and hardly ever goes out.  Because it's in the middle of the day, I'm not worried.  I believe that she'll come back when things start getting difficult/scary - she doesn't like the dark.  She gives us the silent treatment, so it's hard to communicate with her.  If anybody has been through this kind of behaviour, I would appreciate any advice.  Unless you have, you couldn't understand how awful it is to have a teenager that is miserable most of the time, and so unreasonable.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Your teenage daughter and you have clearly spectacularly failed to communicate with each other. She will have discovered that shis unable to get through to you and has become exasperated and has no other way of expressing herself except by resorting to damaging things. The barriers to communication that autism creates are profound and debilitating and ultimately exasperating for all concerned.

    You show signs of suggesting that you are a victim and I am sorry that you feel like this but it is probably much worse for her as she will have even less insight than you about the situation she finds herself in.

    You have no power to control but you have got the power to try and understand what she is going through. Do not impose on her but try and be extremely patient and clear and consistent and rational.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Your teenage daughter and you have clearly spectacularly failed to communicate with each other. She will have discovered that shis unable to get through to you and has become exasperated and has no other way of expressing herself except by resorting to damaging things. The barriers to communication that autism creates are profound and debilitating and ultimately exasperating for all concerned.

    You show signs of suggesting that you are a victim and I am sorry that you feel like this but it is probably much worse for her as she will have even less insight than you about the situation she finds herself in.

    You have no power to control but you have got the power to try and understand what she is going through. Do not impose on her but try and be extremely patient and clear and consistent and rational.

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