Hi,
I dont know why but my son who will be 17 on monday has asked to go to a rock club in glasgow that is for under 18's. He has been asked by a friend from school who has been good with my son for most of secondary school but hasnt been in touch since July and this offer came because my son asked him over on sat for his birthday, as he had plans with a group of friends to go to glasgow he asked my son to go with him instead. Ive spoken to him myself and he has said he will take him (by train) and keep an eye on him there, and bring him home after. (It finishes at 9 so its not a late night) he is nearly 17 and he needs his independance from me I do understand that. So I have said yes.
It sounds all good but im a nervous wreck, let me explain. My son has AS,Dyspraxia and hypotonia. He could never handle school discos, doesnt like crowds, at college he doesnt even go into the canteen as its too busy for him! he eats a packed lunch in a sitting area close to his classrooms. He gets anxiety issues when plans change or people come to the house, He cant sit comfortably in his grans if there are more than afew people there, He gets lost in places he knows. He has to know where I am and what Im doing all the time, even when he is not going to be here.
So why would he want to go by train (never been on the train to glasgow before, its been years since he has been on a train) to a busy city on a sat the week before xmas to go to a busy and loud club he has never been to before. I dont get it at all! Yes he wants to see his old school friends as he has moved on to college while they stayed on to 6th year. But why would he want to do something that he knows he isnt going to like at all. He says he wants to try and he doesnt know for sure he wont like it till he trys. He sees each indivdual thing a seperate and doesnt understand why im comparing it to school/college things.
Ive made sure he had credit on his phone and made him promise he wont leave the building without his friend or me if he phones for help, but it will take me 45 mins to get to him so if he panicks we could be searching glasgow for him.Ive googled the place and checked out where it is and that it is under 18's only problem is theres no wheelchair access so he cant take his chair so he has to walk, his pal says there is loads of seats there and its a 2min walk from station. Im driving him to my local station and picking him up from it.
I know I have to give him his independance, any advice from parents on how they handled the steps to adulthood and independance please help me. Am i right to let him go.
So sorry for long post, thanks for reading a silly mum in a panic.
x
