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Will special school make my son resent me later?

ProudMummy1510

Hi,

I have a 6 year old ASD son who up until now has been in mainstream with a support worker (via a statement).

Before starting school my preference was for special school but due to funding and the fact that my son is academically bright, I was pressurised into at least trying mainstream.

We're now in Y1 and things have taken a turn for the worse. He's struggling with some of the less tangible concepts and the pressure of learning is making him tearful. He's also been complaining about the noise. 

The school have been great but as a mainstream setting, there's only so much they can do. They think he won't be able to manage mainstream for more than another year or so at most, given his current difficulties.

I'm so torn about what to do. His classmates are really accepting and understanding and although he doesn't really understand friendship or playing with other children yet, he loves being in their company and just running around the playground with them. He's also bonded with his support worker. 

His diagnosis wasn't Aspergers so he doesn't seem to have the insight or awareness that goes along with that form of ASD, but obviously the future is very much a blank canvas. I don't know what he will ultimately be capable of, or how independent he will be.

Ironically, after really wanting to go to special school, I'm now worried about robbing him of the opportunity to experience a "normal" schooling and with all that entails.

Can anyone here give me any insights on how their older child felt about going to a special school, or whether any individuals who went through it themselves could let me know their thoughts? I appreciate everyone is different :)

Thanks

Parents

  • Hello everyone,

    I am new to this forum but have been reading posts and they are all wonderful. Kudos to all the people helping out there with your experiences.

    I have a 6 yr old diagnoised with ASD and goes to Mainstream( yr 1) with statement of one to one support. After schools raised concerns, we are moving him to a special school from sep 2016(year 2).

    We had a parent teacher review meeting in his mainstream yesterday and I was really impressed with the work he has done. Though he lacks in imagination and creativity he has progressed so well in Maths and literacy and is in good level in reading. After the meeting, I was really worried if we have made the wrong decision to shift him to special school considering he is doing academically well.

    His teacher says, he needs lots of prompting and his concentration levels are low.   

    Do you think ASD attached unit would have been more better? There is nothing we can do now as the decision has already been made to send him special but at least i can keep this in mind in next annual review.

    Any advice would he highly appreciated please.

    Regards

    C.

     

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  • Hello everyone,

    I am new to this forum but have been reading posts and they are all wonderful. Kudos to all the people helping out there with your experiences.

    I have a 6 yr old diagnoised with ASD and goes to Mainstream( yr 1) with statement of one to one support. After schools raised concerns, we are moving him to a special school from sep 2016(year 2).

    We had a parent teacher review meeting in his mainstream yesterday and I was really impressed with the work he has done. Though he lacks in imagination and creativity he has progressed so well in Maths and literacy and is in good level in reading. After the meeting, I was really worried if we have made the wrong decision to shift him to special school considering he is doing academically well.

    His teacher says, he needs lots of prompting and his concentration levels are low.   

    Do you think ASD attached unit would have been more better? There is nothing we can do now as the decision has already been made to send him special but at least i can keep this in mind in next annual review.

    Any advice would he highly appreciated please.

    Regards

    C.

     

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