Will special school make my son resent me later?

Hi,

I have a 6 year old ASD son who up until now has been in mainstream with a support worker (via a statement).

Before starting school my preference was for special school but due to funding and the fact that my son is academically bright, I was pressurised into at least trying mainstream.

We're now in Y1 and things have taken a turn for the worse. He's struggling with some of the less tangible concepts and the pressure of learning is making him tearful. He's also been complaining about the noise. 

The school have been great but as a mainstream setting, there's only so much they can do. They think he won't be able to manage mainstream for more than another year or so at most, given his current difficulties.

I'm so torn about what to do. His classmates are really accepting and understanding and although he doesn't really understand friendship or playing with other children yet, he loves being in their company and just running around the playground with them. He's also bonded with his support worker. 

His diagnosis wasn't Aspergers so he doesn't seem to have the insight or awareness that goes along with that form of ASD, but obviously the future is very much a blank canvas. I don't know what he will ultimately be capable of, or how independent he will be.

Ironically, after really wanting to go to special school, I'm now worried about robbing him of the opportunity to experience a "normal" schooling and with all that entails.

Can anyone here give me any insights on how their older child felt about going to a special school, or whether any individuals who went through it themselves could let me know their thoughts? I appreciate everyone is different :)

Thanks

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Hi ProudMummy,

    I'm afraid that I am confused about how the "academically bright" decription sits with him being categorically not Aspergers. Did he have delay with speech and have poor language skills?

    Mainstream schools vary and some can be hell for people with autism whilst another can somehow be much more congenial. Although the staff seem to understand they don't seem able to protect him from noise. Have you tried ear defenders or noise cancelling headphones? I'm sure that I have read on this forum that some cildren are allowed to use headphones in class/school as a reasonable adjustment. A simple thing like this could transform his experience.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    Hi ProudMummy,

    I'm afraid that I am confused about how the "academically bright" decription sits with him being categorically not Aspergers. Did he have delay with speech and have poor language skills?

    Mainstream schools vary and some can be hell for people with autism whilst another can somehow be much more congenial. Although the staff seem to understand they don't seem able to protect him from noise. Have you tried ear defenders or noise cancelling headphones? I'm sure that I have read on this forum that some cildren are allowed to use headphones in class/school as a reasonable adjustment. A simple thing like this could transform his experience.

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