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Management of obsession

Dad2067

Hi,

Our 12 year old son who I would describe as mild Aspergers is very much into building computers. I'm not sure if it represents a "special interest", but it is certainly something he is very passionate about and devotes all of his time too. 

Having built a new one recently I'm worried that he is seeing problems with it that aren't there, either so he can re-build it or whether he is being obsessive. I'm not sure whether to pander to this and avoid the resultant stress he feels or to try and educate him to hopefully accept that there isn't an issue. As parents should we accept their "special interest" and go along with it always, or should we try and help modify their behaviour if at times the situation becomes unacceptable? 

Any thoughts and experiences gratefully received.

Parents

  • Hi Dad2067,

    I have no answers I'm afraid, just what feels like a similar problem - do we go along with it or not?

    My 16 year old daughter has just started seeing a councillor for her OCD (it's been a recurring problem), and she has suggested Aspergers could be the underlying problem. I hope I'm ok to post here when she doesn't have a diagnosis. Reading through this website, I can see her in a lot of the descriptions of the condition and it has been suggested before by relatives. 

    She is currently obsessed by saying the absolute truth, which means she constantly corrects herself, apologises, apologises for apologising, backtracks, confirms what you said, clarifies what she said herself - and so on. She needs us to acknowledge all of this and reassure her she has said everything correctly. But does that do any good? She needs to not behave like that in the world outside home. By going through all this at home, does that mean she is more secure so will do it less at school or does it make it seem like it's ok so she will do it more?

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  • Hi Dad2067,

    I have no answers I'm afraid, just what feels like a similar problem - do we go along with it or not?

    My 16 year old daughter has just started seeing a councillor for her OCD (it's been a recurring problem), and she has suggested Aspergers could be the underlying problem. I hope I'm ok to post here when she doesn't have a diagnosis. Reading through this website, I can see her in a lot of the descriptions of the condition and it has been suggested before by relatives. 

    She is currently obsessed by saying the absolute truth, which means she constantly corrects herself, apologises, apologises for apologising, backtracks, confirms what you said, clarifies what she said herself - and so on. She needs us to acknowledge all of this and reassure her she has said everything correctly. But does that do any good? She needs to not behave like that in the world outside home. By going through all this at home, does that mean she is more secure so will do it less at school or does it make it seem like it's ok so she will do it more?

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