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newly diagnosed 4 yr old not sure wherever to treat her differently

shaki

My daughter has been diagnosed high functioning asd very recently and I'm not sure how to go forward. In some respects I've felt relief that maybe I can use this diagnosis as an excuse for having found motherhood so hard. I really struggle with patience at times...for example when I've tried five times to put her socks on and still not got it right. I've at times nearly felt destroyed as I'm so exhausted by her demands. However I fear I should maybe be more tolerant as she has been given a reason for her behaviour. I think people already feel I'm too soft on her. I need coping strategies I think. Anyone able to point me in the right direction? In floods of tears trying to type this! Thank you in advance.  Also I'm worried if I change to much to allow for asd I'm taking her further away from "normality" and just want to to fit in. Her main problem is with social skills. 

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  • I completely empathise where you are at, I have a 3 1/2 year old son, we are waiting for a diagnosis. From my experience over the last few months I think it's best to remember that you know your daughter better than anyone else. Your instinct is so powerful. It is a shock but try to do things that she enjoys as seeing her happy will lift your spirits. She's the same little girl as before the diagnosis. I have found that allowing my son time to himself is very important. He gets stressed with too much socialisation. If you ever do play dates etc keep them structured and short. I have found there is a lot of support out there, especially from parents who have been through this, and there are incredible success stories. Never under estimate her either!

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  • I completely empathise where you are at, I have a 3 1/2 year old son, we are waiting for a diagnosis. From my experience over the last few months I think it's best to remember that you know your daughter better than anyone else. Your instinct is so powerful. It is a shock but try to do things that she enjoys as seeing her happy will lift your spirits. She's the same little girl as before the diagnosis. I have found that allowing my son time to himself is very important. He gets stressed with too much socialisation. If you ever do play dates etc keep them structured and short. I have found there is a lot of support out there, especially from parents who have been through this, and there are incredible success stories. Never under estimate her either!

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