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Help! 13 yr old daughter won't go In to school

Loubobsmum

Hi im at the end of my tether and feel like i have no idea about what to do next. My daughter was diagnosed with ASD when she was 10 and it is high functioning so no statement in place as she was coping well at primary school.

It has all hit the fan when she went to senior school and she has become more withfraw and anxious and an angry young lady. She wont go into school anymore as it is overwhelming her and she sticks oit like a sore thumb as she is attending base and not many of her classes. The noose and relationships and constant moving around is too much for her.

Ive spoken to head of SEN and requested that she be assessed by an educational psychologist as i know i need something legal if we want to move schools with special provisions.... however here is my worrying problem.....

Head og SEN says the schhol EP can only assess 3 chikdren at a time so it will be february before she gets to her. Even if she gets a statement they have a 3 year waiting list for a special provision school and have someone who was assessed in year 8 and still waiting in yr 11 for the move so she has told me in not so many words it wont happen! 

I have nowhere else to turn..... she is refusing to go in at all.... surely there is something else i can do?

Any advice would be apreciated.....

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  • Hi

    Sorry to hear of your issues.  You need to go and talk to your local councillor now and don't be put off by doing so.

    Book an appointment and discuss the issues you are having.  They may be able to escalate for you.  Once the education system know you have a local politician involved, they seem to change their opinion.  You will also find that most schools delay all the time trying to obtain a statement. 

    My story is slightly different.  I had a diagnosis and I managed to see the Educational Psycologist quickly - because of his behaviour really.  If your daughter is quiet and will not disrupt - they will delay.

    The education system has an obligation to provide an education for your child and if they do not have the means available for her to access as any other child - they are failing you. 

    Please discuss now - don't delay.

    To cut a long story short, my son was excluded from mainstream lots of times, changed schools and ended up in a Pupil Referal Unit - which is a place where excluded children go, regardless of their disability.  I wasn't happy with this place and I elected to take him out.  I was advised that I could be taken to court for not bringing my child to school.  This was after he had been sent home a zillion times!!

    I went to see my local politician and within months  the educational authority was granted funding to put him into a residential school.    I know this will not be what you want to do - but I just wanted to impress upon you that you cannot delay.  Make a nuisance of yourself.

    Good Luck

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  • Hi

    Sorry to hear of your issues.  You need to go and talk to your local councillor now and don't be put off by doing so.

    Book an appointment and discuss the issues you are having.  They may be able to escalate for you.  Once the education system know you have a local politician involved, they seem to change their opinion.  You will also find that most schools delay all the time trying to obtain a statement. 

    My story is slightly different.  I had a diagnosis and I managed to see the Educational Psycologist quickly - because of his behaviour really.  If your daughter is quiet and will not disrupt - they will delay.

    The education system has an obligation to provide an education for your child and if they do not have the means available for her to access as any other child - they are failing you. 

    Please discuss now - don't delay.

    To cut a long story short, my son was excluded from mainstream lots of times, changed schools and ended up in a Pupil Referal Unit - which is a place where excluded children go, regardless of their disability.  I wasn't happy with this place and I elected to take him out.  I was advised that I could be taken to court for not bringing my child to school.  This was after he had been sent home a zillion times!!

    I went to see my local politician and within months  the educational authority was granted funding to put him into a residential school.    I know this will not be what you want to do - but I just wanted to impress upon you that you cannot delay.  Make a nuisance of yourself.

    Good Luck

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