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Help! 13 yr old daughter won't go In to school

Loubobsmum

Hi im at the end of my tether and feel like i have no idea about what to do next. My daughter was diagnosed with ASD when she was 10 and it is high functioning so no statement in place as she was coping well at primary school.

It has all hit the fan when she went to senior school and she has become more withfraw and anxious and an angry young lady. She wont go into school anymore as it is overwhelming her and she sticks oit like a sore thumb as she is attending base and not many of her classes. The noose and relationships and constant moving around is too much for her.

Ive spoken to head of SEN and requested that she be assessed by an educational psychologist as i know i need something legal if we want to move schools with special provisions.... however here is my worrying problem.....

Head og SEN says the schhol EP can only assess 3 chikdren at a time so it will be february before she gets to her. Even if she gets a statement they have a 3 year waiting list for a special provision school and have someone who was assessed in year 8 and still waiting in yr 11 for the move so she has told me in not so many words it wont happen! 

I have nowhere else to turn..... she is refusing to go in at all.... surely there is something else i can do?

Any advice would be apreciated.....

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  • Is the noise and constant moving around any uindication that she is getting more of this than she should? That is to say - have her peers perhaps  discovered she gets stressed and reacts in noisy or busy environments and are making sport of it? Being bullied is a common element with autism.

    Changing schools is more traumatic for someone on the spectrum. It is not just change that causes problems, but most non-autistic children are able to settle into a new environment through social referencing - the social and conversational world of people in a shared environment. She will not be picking up that input.

    The fact she is attending base classes will get her singled out for unfair attention by other pupils.

    Why particularly does she need to be assessed by an educational psychologist? The school has presumably been informed of her diagnosis (and accepted her as a pupil with that condition). They are surely up to the job of supporting someone with autism. The fact there is a waiting list like this suggesyts the school is failing in its duties towards disabled pupils.

    I think, if you feel able, and preferably with support, you need to challenge the school's unhelpful approach. By support I mean someone from a parents group or local NAS group in your area - find out about these from the little red maps on the Home and Community pages of this website. Even if there isn't one near you, contact them for their advice.  Your local authority may have an advocacy service.

    There does seem to be a widespread failing to properly understand autism in schools. The primary school was able to support, why not this secondary?

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  • Is the noise and constant moving around any uindication that she is getting more of this than she should? That is to say - have her peers perhaps  discovered she gets stressed and reacts in noisy or busy environments and are making sport of it? Being bullied is a common element with autism.

    Changing schools is more traumatic for someone on the spectrum. It is not just change that causes problems, but most non-autistic children are able to settle into a new environment through social referencing - the social and conversational world of people in a shared environment. She will not be picking up that input.

    The fact she is attending base classes will get her singled out for unfair attention by other pupils.

    Why particularly does she need to be assessed by an educational psychologist? The school has presumably been informed of her diagnosis (and accepted her as a pupil with that condition). They are surely up to the job of supporting someone with autism. The fact there is a waiting list like this suggesyts the school is failing in its duties towards disabled pupils.

    I think, if you feel able, and preferably with support, you need to challenge the school's unhelpful approach. By support I mean someone from a parents group or local NAS group in your area - find out about these from the little red maps on the Home and Community pages of this website. Even if there isn't one near you, contact them for their advice.  Your local authority may have an advocacy service.

    There does seem to be a widespread failing to properly understand autism in schools. The primary school was able to support, why not this secondary?

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