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Not asking the right quesitons to 8 yr old son

littlemoo43

Hi

My son ishigh functioning autistic, and he has changed a lot recently since becoming 8 and starting year 3.

The school are being very supportive (as much as they are able since he has not been diagnosed and generally fits in ok most of the time.)

However I having a lot of problems at the childminders. I work and he goes to the childminder after school and in the holidays.

Recently he hs become very withdrawn, doesn't want to play with any of the toys that are out including things he would previously play with like lego and paper aeroplanes. He reads a book most of the time, then comes home and says he doesn't want to go back and it isn't 'fun'. This all leads to difficult behaviour which is difficult when the childinder is looking after a lot of children. He also doesn't play with much at home either apart form books, computer and TV.

I don't like him not being happy and have asked him what he would join in with and what he would find fun, but he can't tell me and i can't ask the right questions - i just don't know how to ask in such a way that he can give me an answer that's not 'i don't know' or 'i can't remember'

I don't know what to do, or who can help me in my local area (swindon), especailly until i can get a diagnosis.

Any suggestions on how to approach the questions to my son or how to find others who can help me would be really helpful.

Thank you

~Jo

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  • Thanks both of you. 

    I have tried art a couple of times and he doesn't seem to want to engage with it. He likes talking so i guess i need to work out how to get him to talk in a way that tells me useful things.

    We are trying to be posirive and am trying things like taking his own toys.

    However since i posted he has got a lot happier at home and the childminder although school is still challenging. I think some of your theories KatJackKev might be might about year 3.

    Thanks again. 

    ~Jo

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  • Thanks both of you. 

    I have tried art a couple of times and he doesn't seem to want to engage with it. He likes talking so i guess i need to work out how to get him to talk in a way that tells me useful things.

    We are trying to be posirive and am trying things like taking his own toys.

    However since i posted he has got a lot happier at home and the childminder although school is still challenging. I think some of your theories KatJackKev might be might about year 3.

    Thanks again. 

    ~Jo

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