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Teacher wont believe anything is wrong...

ceejaydj

Hi all : )  My Daughter was assessed last year when she was 4 years old and it came back inconclusive due to the ADOS and as the school claimes she has no difficulties.  She is due to be reassessed in two years when she will be 7yrs.  Autism was picked up when she was 2yrs and all the professionals mentioned asd from the start.  Since learning all about asd i know 100% that she has got it.  She was more classically autistic when she was a baby/toddler but since she has started school she has shown that she is able to learn (copy) and adapt.  We feel she has high functioning autism.  Her older brother has adhd and is now on the waiting list for assessment for aspergers also.  Basically, we have huge problems with her at home, out and about which is also seen in her gymnastics class etc (not just with us at home) but the school are not willing to help.  She was awake most nights last week crying her eyes out and occassionally hitting out.  She finds it difficult to comunicate her anxieties but im asumming she is anxious about the school play and going to see a panto in the next few weeks.  I have written everything down in her reading book for her teacher to see and try and work with me to help her but all i got back is that "all the children in the class seem happy to go to the panto"!!! She wakes up every morning claiming she is ill with a bad belly and doesnt want to go to school, it brakes my heart.  The teacher is very old school so i am told and basically does not have much knowledge about girls with autism.  There is a boy in the same year but different class who has aspergers and he is having a hell of a time in class due to sensory issues but the teachers can see his worries as he can get quite violent(although there is not much help for him there either), My Daughter wont, if she gets upset or angry about something she holds it all in until she gets home then blows!.  We had a meeting with the ed psych a few weeks ago who was reluctant to assess my daughter as the teacher claims there are no problems in class to report.  This upset me as i knew the ed psych would be able to see how my daughter interacts with her peers and how she comunicates, plays etc so she will assess her just before she goes through the 2nd autism assessment in two years time.  Once my daughter is in school, i can imagine her being happy as everything is so structured, she even talks to her peers in class but completely blanks them outside of school or even in the playground on the way to school and on the way out.  She likes her set routines etc  Has anyone been through a similar situation?  I dont know many people with girls with ASD especially with HFA/AS.  Thank you x

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  • Hi, I had the same thing with my 11 year old daughter. She's very academic and has always been very well behaved at school, her primary have always refered to her as a model pupil, which made me think it was my parenting that was causing her difficulties and prevented me going for help.

    She started Comprehensive last September and it's become very apparent since then that she does struggle. I took her to my GP during her last year in primary as her behaviours seemed to be getting worse and he told me that she's displaying classic Asperger symptoms and he was surprised I hadn't been for help before.

    Her primary teacher still refused to believe that there could possibly be anything wrong, even though I had told her what my GP had told me and that he had refered her to our local child mental health service.

    Her teacher made the comment that the only problem she had was a lack of concentration sometimes in class. When I asked her how she knew this, she said it was because Eve always looks away when I'm talking to her!! Doh. When I questioned Eve about this she said it made her uncomfortable when people 'stare' at her.

    Like your daughter, she's always appeared to get on well with other children and has friends in school, but has no interest in them outside of school. She also has tummy ache with anxiety which at times gets that bad, it causes her diarrhoea!!

    I think what I'm trying to say is don't let school staff put you off, as they did me. She's finding comp really hard now, although the staff there have been fantastic and really helpful. Continue to push for the help you need, if she's struggling with school make sure they know it.

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  • Hi, I had the same thing with my 11 year old daughter. She's very academic and has always been very well behaved at school, her primary have always refered to her as a model pupil, which made me think it was my parenting that was causing her difficulties and prevented me going for help.

    She started Comprehensive last September and it's become very apparent since then that she does struggle. I took her to my GP during her last year in primary as her behaviours seemed to be getting worse and he told me that she's displaying classic Asperger symptoms and he was surprised I hadn't been for help before.

    Her primary teacher still refused to believe that there could possibly be anything wrong, even though I had told her what my GP had told me and that he had refered her to our local child mental health service.

    Her teacher made the comment that the only problem she had was a lack of concentration sometimes in class. When I asked her how she knew this, she said it was because Eve always looks away when I'm talking to her!! Doh. When I questioned Eve about this she said it made her uncomfortable when people 'stare' at her.

    Like your daughter, she's always appeared to get on well with other children and has friends in school, but has no interest in them outside of school. She also has tummy ache with anxiety which at times gets that bad, it causes her diarrhoea!!

    I think what I'm trying to say is don't let school staff put you off, as they did me. She's finding comp really hard now, although the staff there have been fantastic and really helpful. Continue to push for the help you need, if she's struggling with school make sure they know it.

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