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8 year old depressive and emotional at home / coping at school???? Help please xx

stacey1471

Hi 

some help/advice is needed please! 

Right my almost 9 year old son has highfunctioning autism. 

He has no statement in school but works closly with the t/a as struggles is behind gets upset. But is a people pleaser and is not behavioural. so the schools views is that my son copes well struggles at times with processing and getting info on to paper etc. on own at lunch etc but other than that a happy little boy that with help gets on with it, 

so so the son that I have at home has deep dark thoughts like 'I know I'm loved but I don't actually feel it'  im in a room full of people but I feel alone!!

amongst crying is saying work is hard it's to noisy at home and school (hia brother also add but hyper and behavioural he is 5) 

he says the paper feels rough always had pen holing issues crys coz hurts and so on, 

and he feels sick but not like sick on our side he feels sad u happy etc!!!

I just don't kn what to do!Seems we have 2 diff boys school and home which I know is very common but don't see how he can have a smile all day then cry and sob at night with such deep serious feelings x 

please help is u can !! 

  • Hi.

    Your son sounds quite a lot like mine (age 8 and a bit) - you have my sympathy and support, even though i can't offer anything practical.

    ~ Jo

  • Hi, thankyou to both of you for replying!

    i am now applying for an ehcp myself and the ball is rolling!We are also now under our local children's mental health team and are doing weekly sessions to help my sons anxity and worries! 

    long term goal is he is going to go to a local autistic school!

    The school is school is crazy as one min they say he hopes the next the day his anxiety is very night and he is at early stages of self harm as when having meltdowns he is punching, pinching and pressing rulers into him self :/ 

    he now has ear defenders and I am doinh ALL I can to keep a calm house x

  • My son is the same, its a well know fact to be honest for children to be like this, my son is 8 and very agressiveat home and not at school,will try and hurt himself ect.

    They have now put things in place for him at school after i took my son to a&e to ask for help,so we will see how it goes.

  • You're right to identify that he's bottling it all up at school + then letting it out at home when he can't stand it any longer.  I think he needs a quiet place to wind down after school.  Maybe his bedroom without his brother bothering him, where he could indulge a hobby for a little while?  He has sensory issues : paper, pen,  noises (any in particular?).  He is under immense pressure.  I would keep a diary of his behaviour at home.  If he's ok about it, you could video it.  This is helpful when you're dealing with professionals such as Drs, teachers, social workers etc.  The school needs to support him more.  Try to get that statement or echp as I think it's now called.  Check out the home pg + the posts to see if there is more info there which might be helpful.