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Struggles in the playground? Any advice please?

MissyKrissy

Hello, I'm new to this site.  My son is six years old and in year 2 at school.  I've always known there's something different about my son, but couldn't put my finger on it until earlier this year, after watching Embarrassing Bodies on tv.  My husband and I did a quick questionaire online about Dyspraxia and it came out that my son probably has got that, but seemed to point also to Aspergers.  I did a lot of reading up online and I am positive he has Aspergers.  He is progessing well with his reading and maths (much higher than average for maths), but unable to write stories (cannot think of ideas) or draw pictures (his pictures are missing detail and are equivalent of around a 3 year old).  He seems to struggle with the imagination and social side of things (including routine changes too).

We are on the list for a Community Paediatrician appointment but I have been told that it's a very long list and could take a long time for an official diagnosis, so I'm doing all I can to help my son now.  

He is happy in the classroom but he is struggling during playtimes (the unstructured parts of the day).  He doesn't like sport so can't join in football, and the other boys play make believe games that he struggles to join in with, and they also won't let him join in.  He comes home most days saying he had been crying during lunchtimes because he wasn't allowed to join in.  Party invites have stopped arriving and I'm becoming increasingly concerned about him as I don't want him to become depressed and not want to go to school.  When we saw the Occupational Therapist (1st appointment for Dyspraxia possibility), she asked him if he had many friends and he said no not really, no one wants to play with me.  I felt completely heartbroken for him.

If anyone knows any advice or tips I can help him with, or any kids clubs in the South West (Bristol and Weston-Super-Mare area), I would be really grateful.

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  • Hi MissyKrissy,

    Your post has taken me back a few years, It is heartbraking. My son is now nearly 17. He has had a diagnosis of dispraxia since he was 3 as he did have many problems like you are discribing. However it wasnt until he was 14 that his peadritrician said that he thought he also had Aspergers. (I was crying at the time saying I couldnt take it anymore and when I told him some of the stuff that was going on at home with him, he said it was apparant to him that he did have AS) however it then took two years to get the diagnoses confirmed by a clinical psychologist who specialises in ASD.

    The diagnoses has helped a lot and I strongly advice that you push for assesment. However he did go through school without this diagnoses so it is possible to get help with out one.

    Have you met with anyone at the school to discuss your concerns? Things were put in place for my son so that he didnt have to go outside at playtime or an assistant was watching things when he did go out.

    Some people argue that why should he be seperated even more? but for him he could invite someone to stay with him inside and they often did as he copes better in one to one situations and he ended up being more social by being kept in and it was always his choice.

    Hope this helps in some way.

    Sam

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  • Hi MissyKrissy,

    Your post has taken me back a few years, It is heartbraking. My son is now nearly 17. He has had a diagnosis of dispraxia since he was 3 as he did have many problems like you are discribing. However it wasnt until he was 14 that his peadritrician said that he thought he also had Aspergers. (I was crying at the time saying I couldnt take it anymore and when I told him some of the stuff that was going on at home with him, he said it was apparant to him that he did have AS) however it then took two years to get the diagnoses confirmed by a clinical psychologist who specialises in ASD.

    The diagnoses has helped a lot and I strongly advice that you push for assesment. However he did go through school without this diagnoses so it is possible to get help with out one.

    Have you met with anyone at the school to discuss your concerns? Things were put in place for my son so that he didnt have to go outside at playtime or an assistant was watching things when he did go out.

    Some people argue that why should he be seperated even more? but for him he could invite someone to stay with him inside and they often did as he copes better in one to one situations and he ended up being more social by being kept in and it was always his choice.

    Hope this helps in some way.

    Sam

    x

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