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saying No

dolly1

My daughter is 14 years old and has just been diagnosed with ASD and ADHD.  The main thing I am struggling with at the moment is she does not seem to accept the work no.  If she wants to do something/ wants something she has to have it and does not seem to understand why she can't.  Does anyone have similar problems.

Also do local authoritys have specific help they can offer or courses which should be made available to children/parents living with autism as she seems to have the diagnosis but we don't know where to go from here.  She is currently being assessed for an EHC plan

Thank you

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  • I haven't got any advice.  I just sympathise entirely as I have the exact same problem with my 14 year old son.  He thinks that if I say "no" to him that I am being desperately unreasonable and treating him unfairly and he gets extremely distressed and angry with me for saying "no".  This behaviour has ended up in me spending money on him that I cannot afford.  For example, he recently wanted me to buy him a subscription to a sports chanel.  He really "needed" to watch the games that are on the chanel and if he didn't watch them he told me that he would be the odd one out in school.  He wouldn't stop mithering and getting upset and angry until I eventually gave in and subscribed.  I'm at my wits' end.

    I think the take-away scenario might partly due to her expecting the take-away and not being able to deal with what she perceives as a plan being broken. 

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  • I haven't got any advice.  I just sympathise entirely as I have the exact same problem with my 14 year old son.  He thinks that if I say "no" to him that I am being desperately unreasonable and treating him unfairly and he gets extremely distressed and angry with me for saying "no".  This behaviour has ended up in me spending money on him that I cannot afford.  For example, he recently wanted me to buy him a subscription to a sports chanel.  He really "needed" to watch the games that are on the chanel and if he didn't watch them he told me that he would be the odd one out in school.  He wouldn't stop mithering and getting upset and angry until I eventually gave in and subscribed.  I'm at my wits' end.

    I think the take-away scenario might partly due to her expecting the take-away and not being able to deal with what she perceives as a plan being broken. 

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