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dolly1

My daughter is 14 years old and has just been diagnosed with ASD and ADHD.  The main thing I am struggling with at the moment is she does not seem to accept the work no.  If she wants to do something/ wants something she has to have it and does not seem to understand why she can't.  Does anyone have similar problems.

Also do local authoritys have specific help they can offer or courses which should be made available to children/parents living with autism as she seems to have the diagnosis but we don't know where to go from here.  She is currently being assessed for an EHC plan

Thank you

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  • Thankyou for your comments.  They are so helpful, I will start trying that straightaway.   Is there any chance you could give me an example.  The situation in the last couple of days is this:-

    Friday night is takeaway night.  My daughter had really hurt me and then gone out to a party without my permission and stolen money from my bag.  

    The next day she started demanding her takeaway and I said no you chose to be out and you stole off me so therefore you can't have one.  She just couldn't accept it and attacked me got my bag off me and went and got one.

    Since she has been calm I have tried to talk about it but she just doesn't understand why I wouldn't allow it.

    Any advice what I could have said at the time to make it easier for her to deal with.  I really think the 2 options will help us but don't know how I could have stopped her fury without backing down.

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  • Thankyou for your comments.  They are so helpful, I will start trying that straightaway.   Is there any chance you could give me an example.  The situation in the last couple of days is this:-

    Friday night is takeaway night.  My daughter had really hurt me and then gone out to a party without my permission and stolen money from my bag.  

    The next day she started demanding her takeaway and I said no you chose to be out and you stole off me so therefore you can't have one.  She just couldn't accept it and attacked me got my bag off me and went and got one.

    Since she has been calm I have tried to talk about it but she just doesn't understand why I wouldn't allow it.

    Any advice what I could have said at the time to make it easier for her to deal with.  I really think the 2 options will help us but don't know how I could have stopped her fury without backing down.

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