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I'm so tired of it

jrandall10

Hi everyone

I am so fed up of people telling me I make our SPD/ASD daughter worse because of my behaviour towards her. I'm tired of being told she is fine at school so it must be something I am doing at home. I'm also fed up of coming in from work and hubby saying she has been fine till you got home. I'm always being told that this is her and I can't fix her, I know that but I can't help wanting to help her when something upsets her. Hubby says I have to tell her if things change and she just has to deal with so there's no point in me pandering to her. Sorry about the moan but I needed to let it out xx

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  • hi Fedupmum

    I think I can understand some of how you feel.   My daughter is 15 and awaiting diagnosis of possible aspergers through camhs.  She has social anxiety so doesn't want to go out apart from school which she finds a real struggle, and has sensitivities, outbursts/meltdowns and mood swings.

    There's only me here, as my husband died several years ago, and it's hard.  I want her to have the best life she can, but often she just doesn't want to talk to me and when we do talk she often takes things the wrong way, even though I try to be careful what I say.  She doesn't want to try what the practitioner suggests either. The practitioner has now said it isn't a mental health problem and she will probably be discharged soon, and told me there is no help or support in our area.  

    So I joined the web site to find information and help.  But coping with it all myself is worrying when there's no one to turn to.

    It must be hard for you having a son at home all that time too, and like me you must worry if your daughter will end up being the same.  Hopefully we will find some ideas to help on this site.

    Take care 

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  • hi Fedupmum

    I think I can understand some of how you feel.   My daughter is 15 and awaiting diagnosis of possible aspergers through camhs.  She has social anxiety so doesn't want to go out apart from school which she finds a real struggle, and has sensitivities, outbursts/meltdowns and mood swings.

    There's only me here, as my husband died several years ago, and it's hard.  I want her to have the best life she can, but often she just doesn't want to talk to me and when we do talk she often takes things the wrong way, even though I try to be careful what I say.  She doesn't want to try what the practitioner suggests either. The practitioner has now said it isn't a mental health problem and she will probably be discharged soon, and told me there is no help or support in our area.  

    So I joined the web site to find information and help.  But coping with it all myself is worrying when there's no one to turn to.

    It must be hard for you having a son at home all that time too, and like me you must worry if your daughter will end up being the same.  Hopefully we will find some ideas to help on this site.

    Take care 

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