• Replies 3 replies
  • Subscribers 65 subscribers
  • Views 1494 views
  • Users 0 members are here
Options
Related
Hints and tips
  • To quote someone's message, first select/highlight the relevant text, and then use the Quote button that appears
  • To "mention" someone, type @ followed by the start of the forum name, and choose from the list; that person will get a notification of being mentioned

Please help 11 year old son cant stop crying in class

kazti

Hello

 

I am hoping someone can give me some advice.  My 11 year old son has recently started crying in class. He has been assesed by our local lighthouse and has not been classed as having aspergers but does show traits of it.

During primary school he was bullied and did not have any friends.  Since starting Secondary school he has got a nice circle of friends and i thought he was settled.  I have recently been told by a teacher at the school that he has been refusing to work in certain classes and has been becoming very upset and crying.

He has told me that he is getting picked on by a couple of children, which he has built up in his head into a massive issue and this makes him upset before he goes to class.  He says he doesnt want to cry but cant help it at times and cant do the work.

He is a very capable and clever child but gets overwhelmed.  Can anyone suggest some strategies i can give him to stay calm?  The crying is becoming a big issue and i do not want him to become isolated from his peers again.

Parents

  • My son is a similar age and suffers from the same issue. I have been in school and seen with my own eyes that sometimes he thinks he is being bullied and teased when actually other children are just trying to have a laugh with him and join him into games. Because he is sensitive and struggles to pick up on cues I think he misinterprets things and gets upset and obviously crying in class at that age will not help. We have tried various coping strategies but haven't found anything that significantly helps. His coping strategy at home is for him to go to his room and be left alone which works wonders but obviously this isn't an option in school and although they have created a calm area for him sometimes I feel this only adds to the problem as he becomes reliant on it and it isolates him even more from the rest of the class. Hopefully even without a dx the school will support your son's individual needs and make sure he is not getting bullied. If your concerned ask for a meeting with them. My son was only diagnosed after CAHMS went to observe him in school, she advised that based on her first meeting with him which was with me she wouldn't have diagnosed him but the traits and differences were much more apparent in school when he was around his peers.

Reply

  • My son is a similar age and suffers from the same issue. I have been in school and seen with my own eyes that sometimes he thinks he is being bullied and teased when actually other children are just trying to have a laugh with him and join him into games. Because he is sensitive and struggles to pick up on cues I think he misinterprets things and gets upset and obviously crying in class at that age will not help. We have tried various coping strategies but haven't found anything that significantly helps. His coping strategy at home is for him to go to his room and be left alone which works wonders but obviously this isn't an option in school and although they have created a calm area for him sometimes I feel this only adds to the problem as he becomes reliant on it and it isolates him even more from the rest of the class. Hopefully even without a dx the school will support your son's individual needs and make sure he is not getting bullied. If your concerned ask for a meeting with them. My son was only diagnosed after CAHMS went to observe him in school, she advised that based on her first meeting with him which was with me she wouldn't have diagnosed him but the traits and differences were much more apparent in school when he was around his peers.

Children
No Data