Please help 11 year old son cant stop crying in class

Don't underestimate the bullying factor. If a child is on the spectrum they may be bullied not merely because they are weak and vulnerable, but because other kids can see how to take advantage of the disability and can also find out how to get them worked up.

Traits of aspergers might be enough to make him less effective at social interaction, and less able to determine what other people are thinking from facial expression. This lends itself to a high dependence on the spoken word, without being able to spot a lie, or a double meaning that most children would pick up from eye contact, facial expression and gestures. They are more likely to take literally things said in fun, and if other kids realise that, it becomes "sport".

They may take death threats (which kids make all the times as exaggerated coercion), and threats of consequences are likely to sink in and be felt as reality.

If the traits of aspergers include sensory difficulties, he may be finding it difficult to cope with visual and auditory input particularly sudden or complex. This can build up stress causing a child on the spectrum to appear to over-react. If other children spot this they see that the child on the spectrum can be entertainment.

It does sound like some children have discovered they can take advantage of him. When you say this has built up in his head into a massive issue, it isn't that he is over-reacting and exaggerating, he probably is experiencing acute stress, and in part this is often repeated causes - they keep doing it.

Someone on the spectrum would have limited access to social referencing - feedback in social situations. So they can get very isolated and unable to find a context or explanation for what is happening to them, and are more dependent on thinking through situations.

If the autistic traits suggest a potential diagnosis, this vulnerability isn't going to go away. Literal interpretation of play, poor social interaction and sensory overload, are all indicative of autistic spectrum difficulties that linger for life.

Therefore I don't think options for staying calm are easy to provide. A better understanding of why he experiences sensory overload - leading to crying - or why he is easily taken advantage of, might help. A diagnosis might help that, but even without one, it looks like he may have autism type vulnerabilities, and having a better understanding of this could be useful.

Also be cautious about circles of friends. If he has difficulty with social interfacing the nature of the friendship may be very superficial.

Don't underestimate the bullying factor. If a child is on the spectrum they may be bullied not merely because they are weak and vulnerable, but because other kids can see how to take advantage of the disability and can also find out how to get them worked up.

Traits of aspergers might be enough to make him less effective at social interaction, and less able to determine what other people are thinking from facial expression. This lends itself to a high dependence on the spoken word, without being able to spot a lie, or a double meaning that most children would pick up from eye contact, facial expression and gestures. They are more likely to take literally things said in fun, and if other kids realise that, it becomes "sport".

They may take death threats (which kids make all the times as exaggerated coercion), and threats of consequences are likely to sink in and be felt as reality.

If the traits of aspergers include sensory difficulties, he may be finding it difficult to cope with visual and auditory input particularly sudden or complex. This can build up stress causing a child on the spectrum to appear to over-react. If other children spot this they see that the child on the spectrum can be entertainment.

It does sound like some children have discovered they can take advantage of him. When you say this has built up in his head into a massive issue, it isn't that he is over-reacting and exaggerating, he probably is experiencing acute stress, and in part this is often repeated causes - they keep doing it.

Someone on the spectrum would have limited access to social referencing - feedback in social situations. So they can get very isolated and unable to find a context or explanation for what is happening to them, and are more dependent on thinking through situations.

If the autistic traits suggest a potential diagnosis, this vulnerability isn't going to go away. Literal interpretation of play, poor social interaction and sensory overload, are all indicative of autistic spectrum difficulties that linger for life.

Therefore I don't think options for staying calm are easy to provide. A better understanding of why he experiences sensory overload - leading to crying - or why he is easily taken advantage of, might help. A diagnosis might help that, but even without one, it looks like he may have autism type vulnerabilities, and having a better understanding of this could be useful.

Also be cautious about circles of friends. If he has difficulty with social interfacing the nature of the friendship may be very superficial.