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Judgement from other parents

zek1234

Hello New to group but been feeling so isolated needed to know if anyone else has same issues.

My child has had issues since 2 and now 5 and half his peadiatric doctor wishes to start multi agency assessment as suspected now that they have austic spectrum disorder.

This was hard to accept but it would explain the additional needs issues they have been having.

However what I am finding hard to deal with is the judgements from other parents in the playground. 

It started in nursery where I would get snide comments as I went through the gates to dirty looks and tuts as I went past to the point I had to see head teacher to ask for 2 children not to be on class with these children (with the support of their teacher who had observed it) that these children were being told to tell other children not go play with mine.

Things seemed to settle in reception and they did improve greatly but those comments keep coming and now parents who dont even have children in same year as mine getting involved.

An incident happened yesterday due to the school making a major change to routine and they couldn't cope. This meant that they had a meltdown and I had to hold them to stop them running off and hurting self. But all I got was comments of animal and monster to the click gathering for a look.

I came home and was in tears and still trying to calm down from that change to routine and noises (has sensory issues as well)

Does anyone know else have to deal with this and if so how do you get through with it? 

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    There is a way of dealing with this but you need to understand how bullying works. There will be one or two ringleaders and lots of "flying monkeys" who only join in to avoid being a victim of the bully.

    If you get tuts and judgemental mutters you say loudly, preferably looking directly at the ringleaders "Thank you for your concerns about my autistic child. Please can you move away because your negative energy is increasing his distress."

    You must say it calmly and in a matter of fact tone. It will make the flying monkeys reluctant to participate because they don't want to be mean but need to act in the way the ringleaders set. If the ringleaders get verbally abusive, you then speak to the school.

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  • Former Member
    Former Member

    There is a way of dealing with this but you need to understand how bullying works. There will be one or two ringleaders and lots of "flying monkeys" who only join in to avoid being a victim of the bully.

    If you get tuts and judgemental mutters you say loudly, preferably looking directly at the ringleaders "Thank you for your concerns about my autistic child. Please can you move away because your negative energy is increasing his distress."

    You must say it calmly and in a matter of fact tone. It will make the flying monkeys reluctant to participate because they don't want to be mean but need to act in the way the ringleaders set. If the ringleaders get verbally abusive, you then speak to the school.

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