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Judgement from other parents

zek1234

Hello New to group but been feeling so isolated needed to know if anyone else has same issues.

My child has had issues since 2 and now 5 and half his peadiatric doctor wishes to start multi agency assessment as suspected now that they have austic spectrum disorder.

This was hard to accept but it would explain the additional needs issues they have been having.

However what I am finding hard to deal with is the judgements from other parents in the playground. 

It started in nursery where I would get snide comments as I went through the gates to dirty looks and tuts as I went past to the point I had to see head teacher to ask for 2 children not to be on class with these children (with the support of their teacher who had observed it) that these children were being told to tell other children not go play with mine.

Things seemed to settle in reception and they did improve greatly but those comments keep coming and now parents who dont even have children in same year as mine getting involved.

An incident happened yesterday due to the school making a major change to routine and they couldn't cope. This meant that they had a meltdown and I had to hold them to stop them running off and hurting self. But all I got was comments of animal and monster to the click gathering for a look.

I came home and was in tears and still trying to calm down from that change to routine and noises (has sensory issues as well)

Does anyone know else have to deal with this and if so how do you get through with it? 

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  • zek1234 said:
    all I got was comments of animal and monster to the click gathering for a look.


    Excuse my language; but [removed by moderator] hell; that is horrific! Who in their right mind would ever dare say such a thing about a child?!

    Even if it was a neurotypical child just having a big sulking tantrum, no one ever has the right to call a child such disgusting names! The fact that your child is on the spectrum just brings this to a whole new level of scum-baggery on their part! 

    I completely agree, 100%, with what you said in another comment, that clearly these 'women'.... No; actually, they're not women, they're the animals & monsters, have not outgrown their school yard bullying stage, & the fact that these animals are also mothers is worrying in itself! 

    I have three kids, I have personal experience with bullying in my own life because I'm 'different', so you can imagine how heart broken it was to see my own kids also facing the same strife. I can't even begin to imagine what it must be like having to take your child into school when the other parents are like that, you must have the patience of a saint. It's all very hush hush in my kids school(s), there's sideways glances & quiet mutterings, but to have them actually come over & have their hurtful words heard... I just can't comprehend it, I really can't.

    You're a great mum, & those animals & monsters are just proving who they really are, nothing more than cruel & spiteful troglodites. You & your son are so much better than all of them combined! There must be something more that can be done on the school's part, because one day those kind of parents are going to say something to the wrong kind of parent, & it will cause a scene, or someone will end up getting slapped.

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  • zek1234 said:
    all I got was comments of animal and monster to the click gathering for a look.


    Excuse my language; but [removed by moderator] hell; that is horrific! Who in their right mind would ever dare say such a thing about a child?!

    Even if it was a neurotypical child just having a big sulking tantrum, no one ever has the right to call a child such disgusting names! The fact that your child is on the spectrum just brings this to a whole new level of scum-baggery on their part! 

    I completely agree, 100%, with what you said in another comment, that clearly these 'women'.... No; actually, they're not women, they're the animals & monsters, have not outgrown their school yard bullying stage, & the fact that these animals are also mothers is worrying in itself! 

    I have three kids, I have personal experience with bullying in my own life because I'm 'different', so you can imagine how heart broken it was to see my own kids also facing the same strife. I can't even begin to imagine what it must be like having to take your child into school when the other parents are like that, you must have the patience of a saint. It's all very hush hush in my kids school(s), there's sideways glances & quiet mutterings, but to have them actually come over & have their hurtful words heard... I just can't comprehend it, I really can't.

    You're a great mum, & those animals & monsters are just proving who they really are, nothing more than cruel & spiteful troglodites. You & your son are so much better than all of them combined! There must be something more that can be done on the school's part, because one day those kind of parents are going to say something to the wrong kind of parent, & it will cause a scene, or someone will end up getting slapped.

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