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Judgement from other parents

zek1234

Hello New to group but been feeling so isolated needed to know if anyone else has same issues.

My child has had issues since 2 and now 5 and half his peadiatric doctor wishes to start multi agency assessment as suspected now that they have austic spectrum disorder.

This was hard to accept but it would explain the additional needs issues they have been having.

However what I am finding hard to deal with is the judgements from other parents in the playground. 

It started in nursery where I would get snide comments as I went through the gates to dirty looks and tuts as I went past to the point I had to see head teacher to ask for 2 children not to be on class with these children (with the support of their teacher who had observed it) that these children were being told to tell other children not go play with mine.

Things seemed to settle in reception and they did improve greatly but those comments keep coming and now parents who dont even have children in same year as mine getting involved.

An incident happened yesterday due to the school making a major change to routine and they couldn't cope. This meant that they had a meltdown and I had to hold them to stop them running off and hurting self. But all I got was comments of animal and monster to the click gathering for a look.

I came home and was in tears and still trying to calm down from that change to routine and noises (has sensory issues as well)

Does anyone know else have to deal with this and if so how do you get through with it? 

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  • Thank you for your comments. It has really helped me. I'm trying very hard to go a thick skin and let the comments wash over me.

    The school tried this but made things worse. I just think some people are to so ignorant. I do wonder how they would deal with what I have to on a day to day basis and see how they would cope.

    The headteacher tried coming out on the playground and they thought it was becuase of my child. I said actually you will find alot of other parents are fed up on the nasty comments. Of course the day the head is there they go all quiet.

    Someone said something the other day that made me think yes you are right. They said they are the school bully who has never grown up and its true.  I have had a friend at school who has started meeting me and helping me be strong to ignore them as best I can and last couple of days keep singing in my head "shake it off" to help me deal with it.

    Thank you for the suggestion of NAS will look for that - anything that helps but said that in society today we have to do that.

    Thank you drowningnotwaving, you as the other comments have really helped me. Have taken on board and going to try not to take it all in and upset me best I can.

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  • Thank you for your comments. It has really helped me. I'm trying very hard to go a thick skin and let the comments wash over me.

    The school tried this but made things worse. I just think some people are to so ignorant. I do wonder how they would deal with what I have to on a day to day basis and see how they would cope.

    The headteacher tried coming out on the playground and they thought it was becuase of my child. I said actually you will find alot of other parents are fed up on the nasty comments. Of course the day the head is there they go all quiet.

    Someone said something the other day that made me think yes you are right. They said they are the school bully who has never grown up and its true.  I have had a friend at school who has started meeting me and helping me be strong to ignore them as best I can and last couple of days keep singing in my head "shake it off" to help me deal with it.

    Thank you for the suggestion of NAS will look for that - anything that helps but said that in society today we have to do that.

    Thank you drowningnotwaving, you as the other comments have really helped me. Have taken on board and going to try not to take it all in and upset me best I can.

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