ASD child

Hi again - it sounds from your last post that you don't know where to turn for help.  You are not alone now that you've found this site.  You can post whenever you want to + posters will try to help.  There are parents on this site + also autistic people so there's a lot of knowledge + experience.  You say your son is hyperactive.  Has he been diagnosed with adhd?  Also, sometimes autistic people can be over active/wound up because they find life chaotic.  Your son needs a very set routine.  Little changes will mean a lot to him + will wind him up.  You can do him a pictoral calendar.  It can start with a picture of a child in bed + his mother waking him up.  Then getting washed, then getting dressed + so on.  In this way he can see what will happen nxt + this shd help to calm him down.  If I were you I'd stop holding him to try to get him to sleep.  It's torture for both of you, the way you describe it.  He may finally fall asleep thru exhaustion, as may you, but it's not even a short term solution is it?  You are worn out by it.  So, if you have problems accessing a support group for parents with children with autism then this site will be a good resource for you.  Has your son still got professionals overseeing his care?  Also I wd re-visit your GP  to ask about any services that may be on offer, inc. some respite care which your local council may provide and/or nursery provision in a place where they understand about autism.  You shd also apply for any benefits you may be entitled to.  Citizens Advice Bureau will be helpful, if you haven't applied already.  You need to try to create a steady predictable routine for your son.  Does he understand single words of phrases?  Keep what you say short + to the point.  Too many words will be confusing.  Say the word + show him.  EG:  you can say "milk" + show him the carton.  That sort of thing.  He's wound up because life is chaotic to him because of his autism.....help him to understand his days better.   I know how awful it is to be totally worn out but what you're doing with the holding isn't working, quite the opposite, so try some of the things I've suggested + see how you get on.  Don't expect any quick results.  The key is in the consistency of your approach + adopting a more laid back attitude whilst at the same time being v observant as to what triggers your son off.  Has he sensory issues......certain sounds, textures, foods, smells etc?  Use this site to gain knowledge.  It will empower you.  

Hi again - it sounds from your last post that you don't know where to turn for help.  You are not alone now that you've found this site.  You can post whenever you want to + posters will try to help.  There are parents on this site + also autistic people so there's a lot of knowledge + experience.  You say your son is hyperactive.  Has he been diagnosed with adhd?  Also, sometimes autistic people can be over active/wound up because they find life chaotic.  Your son needs a very set routine.  Little changes will mean a lot to him + will wind him up.  You can do him a pictoral calendar.  It can start with a picture of a child in bed + his mother waking him up.  Then getting washed, then getting dressed + so on.  In this way he can see what will happen nxt + this shd help to calm him down.  If I were you I'd stop holding him to try to get him to sleep.  It's torture for both of you, the way you describe it.  He may finally fall asleep thru exhaustion, as may you, but it's not even a short term solution is it?  You are worn out by it.  So, if you have problems accessing a support group for parents with children with autism then this site will be a good resource for you.  Has your son still got professionals overseeing his care?  Also I wd re-visit your GP  to ask about any services that may be on offer, inc. some respite care which your local council may provide and/or nursery provision in a place where they understand about autism.  You shd also apply for any benefits you may be entitled to.  Citizens Advice Bureau will be helpful, if you haven't applied already.  You need to try to create a steady predictable routine for your son.  Does he understand single words of phrases?  Keep what you say short + to the point.  Too many words will be confusing.  Say the word + show him.  EG:  you can say "milk" + show him the carton.  That sort of thing.  He's wound up because life is chaotic to him because of his autism.....help him to understand his days better.   I know how awful it is to be totally worn out but what you're doing with the holding isn't working, quite the opposite, so try some of the things I've suggested + see how you get on.  Don't expect any quick results.  The key is in the consistency of your approach + adopting a more laid back attitude whilst at the same time being v observant as to what triggers your son off.  Has he sensory issues......certain sounds, textures, foods, smells etc?  Use this site to gain knowledge.  It will empower you.